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Get Support and Go Further

March 2, 2015 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Reach out. Get support. Go further. Feel better.

moving forward, getting help

Can we be honest?

If you could make the changes you want in your life without help from anyone else, you already would have done so, right?

We are social creature. That’s why we form relationships, build cities, and form associations. We just naturally do better when we’re with others. The same is true about changing habits.  Study after study has shown that people who find support do better in making long-lasting change than those who do not have support.

Of course, how you get support matters too.

When trying to build a supportive base, follow these rules:

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Filed Under: Asking for help, Change, Diet, goals, Group Support, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Relationships, Success Tagged With: better relationships, habit change, support, supportive relationship, supportive spouse, weight loss support, weight loss support groups

Action list for Habit Change

October 29, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Just because the holidays are rapidly approaching does not mean that we get a free pass on changing bad habits.

Fat man holding a measurementIf you’re trying to change your lifestyle, don’t make the mistake of waiting until “after the holidays.” After all, they’ve been going on for over 2,000 years; they’re not stopping anytime soon.

So, for those dedicated souls who wish to enter next year without regret about having “blown it” during the last two months of the year, here are several strategies to navigate your way to a new you in the new year.

Be “sparklingly clear” about what your definition of success looks like.

How will you know you’ve arrived if you don’t know what it looks like when you’re there? It’s true; the result might look different than expected. However, one doesn’t begin a trip without at least an idea about where he’s going.

Describe success in as much depth as you can. Use numbers whenever possible while also focusing on the feelings that will result from your hard work. Use concrete descriptions in defining your goals.

Instead of “I will lose weight,” try (for example) “I will wear a perfect size ten comfortably by January 15.”

Take ridiculously tiny steps.

Small steps done regularly will always generate more results than large steps done intermittently. In other words, it’s better to walk a block and really do it than to swear you’ll run a mile and never get around to it.

If after saying, “I will do (whatever),” you’re not 100 percent absolutely dead-on totally confident that you really will do that, then that goal is too large. Make it small enough so that you have no excuse to not do it.

By the way, a good indicator is that if your inner critic is telling you’re not doing enough, you’re probably on track.

Embrace the rough patches

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Filed Under: Diet, Failure, goals, Habits, Health, Holidays, Newspaper Column Tagged With: achieving your goals, clarity, difficult times, habit change, healthier lifestyle, lifestyle choices, small steps, support

Believe in Yourself as Much as you Believe in Others

August 25, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

hands-reaching-outWe are incredibly supportive of our friends and our family.

When they doubt themselves, we are easily able to inspire, encourage, and invigorate them up with all sorts of compliments. As importantly, we truly believe what we’re telling them too.

Yet, when we are talking about ourselves we are not as good of a friend.

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Filed Under: Asking for help, Communicating, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Self Talk, Success Tagged With: encouragement, family, friendships, frustration, inner doubts, negative self talk, overcoming obstacles, self talk, support

Too Bad We Need Support, huh?

February 10, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five. This is the last one of the five.

#5: Get support

group of friends

Can we be really honest?

If you could achieve your goals on your own, you would have already done so, right? As they say, “Nothing changes if nothing changes,” and if you continue to try and muscle your way through it, you’re actually holding yourself back.

It’s important to remember that each of us is at times a teacher and other times a student. In some areas we show others the way forward. In others, we must be guided.

There is no shame in learning – and there is great courage in asking for help.

Reach out; there will always be a hand ready when you need it. (You’ll repay the favor later.)

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Filed Under: Asking for help, Change, goals, Group Support, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Success Tagged With: 5 habits, goals, lifestyle change, success, support

Close the Back Door

February 3, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.

#4: Close the Back Door.

Табличка с надписью CLOSED висит на дверной ручке с шипамиDon’t leave yourself an escape route.

Make it as easy as possible to move forward and as difficult as possible to stop. Clean your environment of triggers and replace it with support.

Examples:

> If your goal is to lose weight, put your scale, measuring cups, and journal right in plain view.  Get rid of “red light foods.” As soon as you lose a size, get rid of your old clothes. Keeping them “just in case…” usually turns out to be “it just so happened…”

> If you’re goal is to walk more, put your walking shoes right in front of the door. Wear your pedometer wherever you go. Better yet, get a second pair and keep them in the where you can see them. Look for opportunities to walk.

Too often, because we mistakenly believe we “failed” before, we keep our goals secret.

That’s a mistake.

One of the best ways to close the back door is to tell anyone who cares about you what you’re doing and how they can help. If you decide to stop moving forward, that’s your option, but after closing the back door, it becomes a very conscious decision and you have to “own it,” rather than believing you were a victim and it “just happened.”

Remember: Don’t sneak into success; leap loudly with as much noise as you can make.

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Filed Under: Asking for help, Change, goals, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Success Tagged With: 5 habits, goals, lifestyle change, success, support

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