Reach out. Get support. Go further. Feel better.
Can we be honest?
If you could make the changes you want in your life without help from anyone else, you already would have done so, right?
We are social creature. That’s why we form relationships, build cities, and form associations. We just naturally do better when we’re with others. The same is true about changing habits. Study after study has shown that people who find support do better in making long-lasting change than those who do not have support.
Of course, how you get support matters too.
When trying to build a supportive base, follow these rules:
- Reach out to people with whom you feel safe.
- Tell them what you are trying to do.
- Give them a specific action they can do to help you. It’s annoying to both of you if you don’t do this.
- Tell them what you don’t want them to do. Sometimes people really want to help and they think they are but they’re just being an annoyance or hindrance.
- Be honest with them about your progress, or lack thereof. Shame and guilt are never productive.
- Thank them regularly and provide guidance as things change.