Too Bad We Need Support, huh?

February 10, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five. This is the last one of the five.

#5: Get support

Can we be really honest?

If you could achieve your goals on your own, you would have already done so, right? As they say, “Nothing changes if nothing changes,” and if you continue to try and muscle your way through it, you’re actually holding yourself back.

It’s important to remember that each of us is at times a teacher and other times a student. In some areas we show others the way forward. In others, we must be guided.

There is no shame in learning – and there is great courage in asking for help.

Reach out; there will always be a hand ready when you need it. (You’ll repay the favor later.)

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Close the Back Door

February 3, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.

#4: Close the Back Door.

Don’t leave yourself an escape route.

Make it as easy as possible to move forward and as difficult as possible to stop. Clean your environment of triggers and replace it with support.

Examples:

> If your goal is to lose weight, put your scale, measuring cups, and journal right in plain view. Get rid of “red light foods.” As soon as you lose a size, get rid of your old clothes. Keeping them “just in case…” usually turns out to be “it just so happened…”

> If you’re goal is to walk more, put your walking shoes right in front of the door. Wear your pedometer wherever you go. Better yet, get a second pair and keep them in the where you can see them. Look for opportunities to walk.

Too often, because we mistakenly believe we “failed” before, we keep our goals secret.

That’s a mistake.

One of the best ways to close the back door is to tell anyone who cares about you what you’re doing and how they can help. If you decide to stop moving forward, that’s your option, but after closing the back door, it becomes a very conscious decision and you have to “own it,” rather than believing you were a victim and it “just happened.”

Remember: Don’t sneak into success; leap loudly with as much noise as you can make.

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Embrace the Rough Patches

January 27, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.

#3: Embrace the Rough Patches.

 Just because the road has bumps doesn’t mean it’s not the correct road.

Difficult times don’t throw us off; it’s mistakenly believing that we wouldn’t have difficult times that throws us for a loop.

If we think it’s a straight shot from here to there, when we do hit a barrier we think, “It’s all over! I’ve lost my mojo.”

Even the best relationships cause some pain. However, we don’t dump our partner just because we don’t see eye-to-eye. We work through it. Expect that there will be difficult times – and expect you’ll work through it.

Since 80% of setbacks are caused by the same couple of issues repeated over and over and over again, a rough patch – if handled correctly – gives us an opportunity to finally get past a long-term barrier we’ve had that’s consistently held us back, probably causing relapses.

If we handle it well, we’ll NEVER have to face it again.

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Take Ridiculously Tiny Steps

January 20, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.

#2: Take Ridiculously Tiny Steps.

 Small steps done regularly will always generate better results than large steps done intermittently.

In other words, it’s better to walk a block and really do it than to swear you’ll run a mile and never get around to it.

Avoid saying “I will try” or referring to your lapses in the third person (such as “the weight is just not coming off.”) If after saying, “I will…” you’re not sure you can or you really will, that step is probably too large.

Make it small enough so that you have no excuse to not do it.

If your inner critic is telling you’re not doing enough, you’re probably on track.

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Be Sparkingly Clear About What You Want

January 13, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: This last weekend was the launch of my seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Over the next few weeks, we’ll take a quick look at each one of the five.

#1: Be sparkingly clear about what you want.

The number one reason people don’t move forward is they don’t describe their desired outcome well. They say things like “I want to feel better” or “I want to be more organized.”

Without concrete descriptions, you’ll always feel like you’re falling short.

Describe success in as much depth as you can.

Use numbers whenever possible. Create images. Focus on the feelings of being successful. Use concrete descriptions.

Counter-productive examples:

I want to be more organized.
I will lose weight.

Positive examples:

I will clean and arrange one drawer in my office every week until every drawer is completed.
I will weight 175 pounds and wear a size 32 pair of pants comfortably

Don’t be fuzzy when it comes to what you want unless it’s a pair of slippers.

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Too Bad We Need Support, huh?

#5: Get support

Can we be really honest?

There is no shame in learning – and there is great courage in asking for help.

Close the Back Door

#4: Close the Back Door.

Don’t leave yourself an escape route.

Remember: Don’t sneak into success; leap loudly with as much noise as you can make.

Embrace the Rough Patches

#3: Embrace the Rough Patches.

Just because the road has bumps doesn’t mean it’s not the correct road.

If we handle it well, we’ll NEVER have to face it again.

Take Ridiculously Tiny Steps

#2: Take Ridiculously Tiny Steps.

Small steps done regularly will always generate better results than large steps done intermittently.

If your inner critic is telling you’re not doing enough, you’re probably on track.

Be Sparkingly Clear About What You Want

#1: Be sparkingly clear about what you want.

Without concrete descriptions, you’ll always feel like you’re falling short.

Don’t be fuzzy when it comes to what you want unless it’s a pair of slippers.

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