Have Realistic expectations of habit change.
When you decide to change a bad habit, there are two things to remember:
1) It will take longer than you expect
2) It will be more difficult than you would prefer
Action list for Habit Change
Just because the holidays are rapidly approaching does not mean that we get a free pass on changing bad habits.
If you’re trying to change your lifestyle, don’t make the mistake of waiting until “after the holidays.” After all, they’ve been going on for over 2,000 years; they’re not stopping anytime soon.
So, for those dedicated souls who wish to enter next year without regret about having “blown it” during the last two months of the year, here are several strategies to navigate your way to a new you in the new year.
Be “sparklingly clear” about what your definition of success looks like.
How will you know you’ve arrived if you don’t know what it looks like when you’re there? It’s true; the result might look different than expected. However, one doesn’t begin a trip without at least an idea about where he’s going.
Describe success in as much depth as you can. Use numbers whenever possible while also focusing on the feelings that will result from your hard work. Use concrete descriptions in defining your goals.
Instead of “I will lose weight,” try (for example) “I will wear a perfect size ten comfortably by January 15.”
Take ridiculously tiny steps.
Small steps done regularly will always generate more results than large steps done intermittently. In other words, it’s better to walk a block and really do it than to swear you’ll run a mile and never get around to it.
If after saying, “I will do (whatever),” you’re not 100 percent absolutely dead-on totally confident that you really will do that, then that goal is too large. Make it small enough so that you have no excuse to not do it.
By the way, a good indicator is that if your inner critic is telling you’re not doing enough, you’re probably on track.