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Labeling Results Determines Future Results

July 19, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Recently, I stumbled upon some noteworthy details.

First factoid: Supposedly (I say “supposedly” as I’m not sure of its veracity), the average overweight American needs to shed 38 pounds to level the scales at his correct weight. Obviously, some must lose more, and some less. Yet, should one take the collective poundage our citizenry must remove to be healthy, and divide it by the number of citizens who must drop those pounds; the resulting number would be just shy of 40.

Factoid two: That same “average American,” upon deciding to rid himself of the above mentioned 38 pounds, usually quits prior to 16 weeks; a shade less than four months.

The final datum is that — despite pie-in-the-sky claims made by “miracle weight loss cures” falsely proclaiming one can drop five to ten pounds a week — an “average” healthy, sustainable (two important distinctions) weight loss is between one-half and two pounds per week. Let’s split the difference down the middle and declare that number to be one and a quarter pounds every seven days.

From these bits of information, we can make a central deduction.

If the “average person” desirous of losing the “average amount of weight” sheds the “average amount per week” and quits in the “average number of weeks,” he will be approximately half way to his goal when he throws in the towel. (Sixteen weeks multiplied by 1.25 pounds per week = 20 pounds; just the other side of the midway point of 38.)

This prompts a quasi-philosophical question: Is one a “success” or “failure” if she drops 20 pounds, when in actuality, her goal is 38? It’s one of those “half-empty, half-full” scenarios.

The greater issue is not how many pounds one might lose, but how one views how many pounds she has lost.

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Filed Under: Beliefs, Diet, Newspaper Column, Overcoming Perfectionsim, Power of Attitude, Self Talk, Weight Loss Tagged With: attitude, correct weight, diet, emotions, motivation, perception is reality, perfectionism, philosophical question, scales, successes

Affirmation: The Cleansing Ability of Sadness

June 9, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Sadness can be cleansing.

We do so much to avoid being sad.

Aside from the fact that it’s impossible to never experience sadness, we need to realize that it won’t kill us. Sadness is nature’s way of removing the pain from our soul. Only after letting it run its course, can we once again experience true joy.

Do not seek out reasons to be sad; but do not avoid it either.

I will feel sadness should it arise. I will let it wash over me.

I will continue with my pursuits – despite feeling sad.

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Filed Under: Affirmation, Happiness, mental health, Overcoming Obstacles Tagged With: affirmation, emotions, feelings, sad note, sadness, true joy

Look at Conflict Differently

June 4, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Look at conflict not as opposing forces – but as the opportunity to correct a problem.

We’re all different.

We therefore see things differently – and react to events differently.

Sometimes, those difference collide and we’re in conflict.

However, once we realize that it’s not a “right-wrong,” “good-bad” kind of thing; it’s merely a difference in viewpoint, then, we are freed up to find a common path to the solution, alleviating much of the pain associated with disagreeing.

Look for the way for all parties to get as much as possible, rather than as a win-lose proposition, and the pain of conflict will be greatly reduced – sometimes even eliminated.
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Filed Under: Communicating, Conflict Management, Motivational Monday Tagged With: conflict, disagreement, emotions, feelings, opposing forces, relationships

Feeling Healthy or Feeling Shame

May 30, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

I attempt to be transparent.

It isn’t always easy because we all possess “secret places;” those spaces we don’t reveal; too embarrassed or ashamed to admit out loud. Like you, I have a firm moral center; therefore my “dark places” are not deep black, more appropriately they are shades of grey. Who knows, if I let them loose to be washed in open sunlight, I might learn they’re simply “off-white.”

That belies the issue: I’m not proud of them.

That’s part of the human condition; none of us have achieved absolute self-acceptance. Sure, we don a strong veneer, and generally, we’re pretty good about keeping in place our mask. Yet, it’s still one foot in front of the other on the road to self-acceptance, occasionally stumbling in potholes.

Lately, I’ve been in a funk.

It originates when I wake up with foggy, upsetting recollections of distressing dreams. Although they evaporate with the morning light, an unsettling, discomforting residual coating on my psyche remains. The day commences with me drained, overwhelmed, and leery of what may come. In effect, my attitude “sucks,” which is unlike me.

We all go experience that, passing it off to “one of those days,” or a “rough patch.” But when does it become “normal,” and one realizes you’re no longer who you were, but rather who you have become?

One thing leads to another, and I end up attempting to enhance my outlook by falling back on an old habit — for me, that’s eating. Logically, will it help? No, of course not. But it has nothing to do with rationality when you’re stuffing granola bars in your pie hole at 11 PM. That is naked raw jagged emotion; I’m “medicating,” pure and simple.

Medications have side effects.

In this instance, it’s weight gain. When I gain weight — especially self-induced — I become depressed. When that happens, I seek more “treatment,” leading to more pounds, which…  Well, you see the cycle.

Should this be happening to someone seeking my counsel, I’d ask, “What precipitated this change in behavior? When did it start?”

My answer: October 25, the day I was hit by the car while riding my bike.

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Filed Under: Asking for help, mental health, Newspaper Column, Self Talk Tagged With: attitude, emotion, emotions, feelings, happiness, health, medications, moral center, psyche, quality of life, self acceptance, thankfulness, weight gain

No More Excuses

March 21, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

“Successful people find a way; failures find excuses.”

I don’t remember who told me that, and as much as I find the term “failures” to be a sloppy choice of words, it’s a valid concept. Day by day, hour-by-hour, we face options. Often, one path leads us forward while another locks us in place. Why then do we opt to stay where we are?

The human psyche is past complex and the reasons are beyond count. Sometimes, we didn’t realize alternatives existed until we look back. Possibly, the choices did not seem that diverse; in effect it was six of one, half a dozen of the other; any port in a storm. Maybe it was a snap decision without the necessary time to truly evaluate the results. Yet, more times than not, no sugarcoating the answer: we had an excuse.

At any moment, any one of us can dig deep into our sack of justification pulling forth numerous vindications why we make our choices. “Not enough time; people will think less of me; it’s never worked before, why will this be different?” As the stakes amplify, immovability expands, the opposite of what needs to happen.

For example, your marriage hits rough seas.

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Filed Under: Asking for help, Beliefs, Change, Habits, Happiness, Newspaper Column, Self Talk Tagged With: choice of words, choices, courage, emotions, excuse, habit, quality of life, relationships, weight loss

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