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Louisiana, Minnesota, Dallas from Multiple Angles

July 13, 2016 by Scott "Q" Marcus

Tumult reigns.

In Louisiana and Minnesota, police tragically killed two innocent black men. Later that same week, the city of Dallas was held hostage as a vile murderous reprehensible individual ripped asunder the hopeful futures of five brave police officers, who were ironically protecting the rights of a crowd protesting the deaths of the two aforementioned black victims. Of course these are not the only examples of violence tearing through our national fabric of late. As President Obama said while consoling a grieving, shocked city at the memorial, “I’ve been to too many of these.”

The loss of any life is a loss to more than one.

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Filed Under: Beliefs, News, Newspaper Column Tagged With: black and white thinking, disagreement, perception is reality, perception of others, perceptions, vehement disagreement

4 Tips to Improve Communications to Get More of What You Want

August 19, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

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Although we’ve been speaking since we were little, we tend to mess it up pretty regularly.

That’s actually to be expected because accurate communication is not determined by the sender but by the receiver. No matter how well you say something, if the person at the other end doesn’t hear it the way you meant it, the communication was poor.

Four things to remember to help minimize conflict and to be happier:

1) Know Your Intention

Before you communicate, ask yourself, “If all went perfectly, what would I want to happen from the result of this communication?”

For example, are you trying to impart information, get someone to change his or her behavior, express how you feel, make someone feel good (or bad)…

If you understand your intention first, it helps you craft your message better.

2) Choose Your Medium

Determine HOW you are are going to communicate what you want.

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Filed Under: Communicating, Conflict Management, Intentions, Motivational Monday, Relationships Tagged With: accurate communication, attitude, channels of communication, conflict, disagreement, intention, perfectionism

How to Forgive After a Divorce

November 20, 2012 by Featured Author

by Neil Keifer

When most people get married they hope it will last throughout their lifetime. However, sometimes that’s simply not the case. When two people get a divorce it can often turn ugly. This can leave both parties with resentment towards things done and said during a divorce. In order to move forward it is necessary to forgive the other party and move on. There are several key things to keep in mind if you have gone through a divorce and are trying to begin the healing process. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Guest Author, mental health, Relationships Tagged With: anger, disagreement, dysfunctional marriage, emotions, forgiveness, happiness, healing, healing process, marriage, perspective, relationship, relationships

Seeking Long-Term-Relationship, Must Share Common Values

October 24, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus

We are imperfect beings; therefore so too are our relationships.

We engage mouth before activating brain. We dismiss our partner’s concerns as irrelevant. We can be inconsiderate, petty, or cranky. It’s part of the human condition; we mess up, and since we live with others, we hurt them. We don’t intend to — but we cannot deny that we do. It matters not how much energy you put into it, nor how long you’ve been together; even the finest relationships cause some pain.

At our end of days, should we be so fortunate to take inventory of our most important relationships and can proclaim them as  “good” more times than not; then indeed they were “good.”

A successful long-term-relationship is not without flaw; rather, it:

  • Incurs less damage during conflicts
  • Recovers from that hurt more quickly and fully
  • Tilts the scale in the direction of “happy” rather than “unhappy”

Short of choosing the wrong partner — those whose relationships fall asunder did not necessarily disagree more often than those with “good” relationships. Instead they had unrealistic expectations, conflating conflict with failure; and did not possess a method to handle disagreement when it raised its unpleasant, but unavoidable, head.

When any relationship is smack dab in the midst of a “rough patch,” our initial reaction is to flee the pain.

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Filed Under: Baby Boomers, Diet, family, Inspiration, mental health, Relationships Tagged With: attitude, better relationships, conflict, disagreement, happiness, health and happiness, healthier lifestyle, long term relationship, relationships, unrealistic expectations

Look at Conflict Differently

June 4, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Look at conflict not as opposing forces – but as the opportunity to correct a problem.

We’re all different.

We therefore see things differently – and react to events differently.

Sometimes, those difference collide and we’re in conflict.

However, once we realize that it’s not a “right-wrong,” “good-bad” kind of thing; it’s merely a difference in viewpoint, then, we are freed up to find a common path to the solution, alleviating much of the pain associated with disagreeing.

Look for the way for all parties to get as much as possible, rather than as a win-lose proposition, and the pain of conflict will be greatly reduced – sometimes even eliminated.
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Filed Under: Communicating, Conflict Management, Motivational Monday Tagged With: conflict, disagreement, emotions, feelings, opposing forces, relationships

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