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Give thanks for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow.  ~Fernanda Miramontes-Landeros

Give thanks for what you are now. That’s not easy when you’re not happy with what you are now.  But, you’ve got to start somewhere, so why not start with exactly who you are today?  That was the first step on my journey towards better health and happiness in my life – getting honest about who I really was, and accepting that as my starting place.  That’s something you can do right now

Here’s how I got honest.  I was 287 pounds, in physical and emotional pain and I knew I needed to change things.  I didn’t know where to begin, so I asked my doctor.  My doctor had been telling me for years that I needed to drop some weight, and I got angry and resentful every, single time.  It took a lot of nerve for me to walk into his office and say, “Okay, let’s say you’re right, I do need to lose some weight.  Where do I start?”

He referred me to a nutritionist.  After my first meeting with her, she asked me to start a ‘Food Journal.’  In it, I was to write down everything I ate for a week.  She asked me not to edit my food choices yet.  “Just eat what you’d normally eat, and write it down after you’re finished,” she said.  I bought myself a new notebook on the way home from the appointment, and I was very excited about starting the next day.  Then came the morning, and suddenly I was angry.  I don’t know where it came from – this defiance, this rebellion.  Suddenly I was thinking, “I’ll show her what I eat everyday!”  And I went off to the doughnut shop and bought six of my favorites and ate them all, with a quart of milk, for breakfast.  And I wrote it all down.  Then for lunch, I was feeling guilty, so I made myself a salad.  It was a large salad, loaded with cheese, beans, and plenty of dressing, but I felt less guilty about that than I did about the doughnuts.  Again, I recorded it all in my journal – this time with measurements.  I had two snacks that afternoon – 18 vanilla wafers and two pudding cups, and “a bag of trail mix.” I’m quoting from the journal here.  For dinner, I fixed spaghetti.  I wrote that I ate a “full plate of spaghetti,” which was a lot.

The week continued on like this.  Looking back now, even though I seemed to be eating with a vengeance, I don’t recall feeling as though I ate more in this particular week than I did most of the time.  Eating a half-dozen doughnuts was nearly a weekly ritual.  I’d just never made note of it before. Two snacks in the afternoon – pretty common for me.  I didn’t feel fuller than usual, and I didn’t get a stomach ache from eating like this, so the guilt and shame I felt when showing my journal to the nutritionist at our next appointment wasn’t as much about what I was eating, as how I was living.
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