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Accepting Things for How They Are

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Self-Acceptance Affirmation

Accepting Situations as They Are

Life can be frustrating, there’s no two ways about it. When it is overwhelming and I feel like a hamster on a wheel, I am faced with only three choices:

  1. Quit the assignment, task, or job
  2. Change the assignment, task, or job to make it better for me
  3. Change my attitude to accept that I’ve made a choice to be here and I’m not willing (or able) to do anything else

 

Staying in a frustrating situation and ranting about it will not change it. It will also ruin my attitude, make me less productive, and possibly ruin my relationships (as well as possibly get me fired). Honor yourself for your willingness to persevere, take a deep breath, and be grateful for whatever you can.

My attitude is my own. Today I will choose to be accepting of my situation and be grateful for what I have.

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Overcome Procrastination by Overcoming Perfectionism

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Strive to get better – not perfect.

Perfection is an impossible goal.

Attempting to be perfect – in effect – trying to “do it all” is not only a barrier to actually getting things done, in many ways, it’s an excuse we use to avoid doing them.

After all, if you get up in the morning and are so overwhelmed with everything you have to accomplish, isn’t your first thought to pull the blankets back over your head and “wait until tomorrow?”

Beyond that, if we KNOW that our definition of success is to “get it all done” and we KNOW that objective is impossible, why would we even begin to move forward? The result of our “failure” is that we’ll get to feel bad in the end. Therefore, since we’re going to feel bad anyway, we might as well not go through the effort in the first place.

Set your goal to “do more,” not “do it all.” Find small measures of success and continue forward.

Forget perfectionism; it’s actually hurting you.

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Remember to Give Thanks for What you Have

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Anti-Perfectionism Affirmation

Being Thankful for What You Have

So often we focus so much on what we do not have that we forget to take a look at what we DO have. That feeling generates a painful sense of lack, pushing us to either give up because we’re “never going to get what we want;” or to push even harder, inducing stress, and causing mistakes. It’s OK to  try and do better and accomplish more. In many ways, it’s healthy. However, don’t forget to take stock of what you do have along the way.

I am thankful for what I have accomplished and for those people around me.

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Self-Talk and Self-Care After Mistakes

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Anti-Perfectionism Affirmation

Be Kind to Yourself

We tend to be very quick to blame ourselves and very slow to accept compliments. A compliment denied is punishment self inflicted. When we feel bad, we engage in comforting behaviors; which many times are the very behaviors we are trying to change. Look for ways to complement yourself for what you do rather than beat yourself up for what you did not do. (That is not to say deny the problem, just be as kind to yourself about your slip-ups as you would be to a child.)

I will forgive myself for the errors I made today. I will correct them, but do so in a state of grace for all concerned, including myself.

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Moving Forward When the Road Seems so Long

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Anti-Perfectionism Affirmation

Looking Backwards to Move Forward

We accomplish more when we compare ourselves to our starting point, rather than to how far we must still travel. When we look down a road without an “end,” we feel defeated and tend to give up, feeling it’s futile to continue. Rather, look at how far you’ve traveled and the sense of accomplishment will help propel you forward yet again.

Today, I will acknowledge the changes I am making, no matter how small.

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