Getting Past What Holds You Back with Baby Boomer Weight Loss Expert Scott 'Q' Marcus
We exist in three times:
Obviously, we can do nothing about our Past Self. Our Future Self is not yet here. The only Self we control is our Present Self.
To do that, we need to ask ourselves questions. [Read more…]
I entered the planet at nine pounds 14 ounces.Assuming that to be normal, thirty years later, as a newly minted father, I panicked when the doctor informed me that my firstborn weighed six pounds six ounces.
Looking me in the eye, attempting to calm my jitters, he replied, “Six-six is normal. I promise he’s fine.”
“But I weighed ten pounds when I was born!” I protested.
“I can’t help it if you were cruel to your mother,” he replied.
To explain, I weighed 50 pounds at age five, 90 pounds at age nine, and 130 pounds when I was a teen. From there, I accelerated, reaching 230 upon entering high school — poor timing to say the least. Of the 1107 students in my class, I was the second fattest. Further putting this in perspective, that was in the day when childhood obesity was an oddity, rather than unfortunately as it can be today, quite common.
Kids are brutal, so what were supposed to be some of my best years were anything but. Girls ignored me; guys badgered and bullied me.
(That’s not a grammatical error.)
When asked, “Who is (your name),” what do you say?
Do you reply with your name? Do you say “I’m a man (or woman).” Is your response, “mother, father, son, daughter”? Do you label yourself by what you do for a living or your religion or even where you live/
Again, who is YOU?
For example, I can be “man” at the same time as I’m “happy.” I can be a “resident of northern California” while “native of Detroit” and both are equally true. I can be “a person of faith” and I can be “doubtful” in the same place. I can be “overweight” and I can be “proud” together.
In order to really achieve your goals, you need to see them in their entirety. For example, instead of saying “I want to be healthy,” or “I will weight 150 pounds,” take a few minutes and write down how that looks.
So, when we slip up, we – with great intention – say, “I can start again tomorrow.” Yet, how often does that pattern repeat, leaving us over and over and over again, “starting tomorrow.”