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Who are you? Are you sure?

July 30, 2022 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Today’s column is a bit heady and requires a little bit of writing.

Don’t fret; it’s nothing complicated. Ready? Of course, you are. Without giving it a lot of thought, write down the first words that come to mind that describe you.

Most people start relatively superficially. For example, I began with “Scott Marcus.” That’s not actually a description of me; it’s my label. So, with more thought, I added “man,” “father,” and “husband.” That dug deeper but is still scratching the surface. After all, there are billions of “fathers” and “husbands” so those words still fall short in describing who I am. To be more specific, I can add a resident of California, 67 years old, self-employed, coach, speaker, and writer. If you’re doing this activity with me, you’re getting a fuller image of who you are, but in reality, these still are more what you do, rather than what makes you you.

To get down to your core, it’s necessary to identify your values, emotions, and beliefs; they are what make you you. Using myself as an illustration, those might be traits such as honest, compassionate, liberal, worried, self-conscious, spiritual, intelligent, funny, angry, and loyal. Whereby I’m not all of those at once, any one can rise to the forefront, depending on the situation in which I find myself.

Adjectives create images; hurried one-word stories replete with judgments. For example, “annoyed,” (a state of mind in which I often find myself of late), invokes imaginings of impatience, crankiness, and pedantic. However, “compassionate” inspires warmth, caring, and helpful. I’d rather be associated with the latter than the former – but, in reality, they’re both me at various times.

Why does all this matter?

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Filed Under: Habits, Inspiration, mental health, Newspaper Column, Power of Attitude, Self Talk Tagged With: change, feelings, happiness, negative self talk, positive self image, quality of life, self assessment

How will Your Future Self Differ from Your Current Self?

October 12, 2015 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Warning! This is going to get a bit heady.

We exist in three times:

  • Past Self
  • Present Self
  • Future Self

Obviously, we can do nothing about our Past Self. Our Future Self is not yet here. The only Self we control is our Present Self.

If we want our Future Self to be whatever we tern as “successful,” we have to start directing our Present Self to become that person.

To do that, we need to ask ourselves  questions. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Baby Boomers, Change, goals, Motivational Monday, Self Talk Tagged With: future self, positive self image, road to success, self assessment, self direction, success, the future

Who is YOU?

July 6, 2015 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Who is YOU?

(That’s not a grammatical error.)

When asked, “Who is (your name),” what do you say?

Do you reply with your name? Do you say “I’m a man (or woman).” Is your response, “mother, father, son, daughter”? Do you label yourself by what you do for a living or your religion or even where you live/

Again, who is YOU?

We are incredibly complex beings and we have many different labels.

For example, I can be “man” at the same time as I’m “happy.” I can be a “resident of northern California” while “native of Detroit” and both are equally true. I can be “a person of faith” and I can be “doubtful” in the same place. I can be “overweight” and I can be “proud” together.

Why does this matter?

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Filed Under: Beliefs, goals, Habits, Happiness, Intentions, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Self Talk Tagged With: bad habits, change, changing habits, goals, habit change, negative self talk, positive self image, self awareness, success

What You Say To Yourself Affects What You Do To Yourself

March 9, 2015 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Habits Happen bumpersticker

In reality, habits do not just “happen.”

They are the end result of a chain consisting of thoughts which lead to feelings which lead to actions. If you wish to change the actions long-term, you must change your internal dialog first. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Change, Diet, goals, mental health, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Self Talk, Success Tagged With: be kind to yourself, habit change, negative self talk, positive self image, self disgust, self esteem, self talk

Which Words Are You Using to Describe Yourself?

July 14, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

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When you think about who you are, which words do you use?

Are they complimentary or insulting? Do they lift you up or hold you down? Would you say them to a child?

The words we use to describe ourselves turn into the reality of who we actually are.

If somebody were to describe you, which expressions do you think they’d use? [Read more…]

Filed Under: Gratitude, Habits, Motivational Monday, Power of Attitude, Self Talk Tagged With: be kind to yourself, children, choice of words, labels, language, positive self image, power of words, self acceptance, self image, self talk, words

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