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Wisdom from my Hearing Aid

August 19, 2020 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

“Did you know that approximately one-third of all folks your age suffers from hearing loss?”

“What?”

Okay, before you jump on me for being insensitive to those who are hearing impaired, I am one of that one in three.

I also suffer from Tinnitus, which is described as a non-stop ringing in the ears. For me, it’s not a ringing; rather I live in my own private wind storm; there’s a constant hiss that serves as the soundtrack of my life. At times it’s a whisper, sometimes it’s a gale, yet it’s unrelenting. Most likely it’s the result of being a rock ‘n’ roll disc jockey from my teens into my thirties. Regrettably, it matters not how I contracted it, it makes itself known from the moment I rise until I fall asleep.

I thought that the unending whisper that accompanied me 24/7 was normal until I heard a public service announcement about it, raising my consciousness to its existence. Turning to my wife, I asked, “What do you hear when it’s silent?”

She looked at me as if I had two noses, perplexed,

“What do you mean, what do I hear when it’s silent? It’s silent. I don’t hear anything.”

“You don’t hear a hiss?”

“No, I don’t hear anything.”

Henceforth, I realized this was not the norm and began pursuing options to rid myself of it.

Although one will see ads for cures on social media and some experts claim that everything from Paxil to microdoses of LSD will alleviate the problem, there is no cure except patience and habituation, just getting used to it.

Once I became aware of my hearing issues, I also realized that I had to turn up the television to a deafening level, needed closed captions to follow the dialog, and annoyed the hell out of my life-partner by repeatedly asking her to speak up. Although vanity delayed me from seeking help, I finally decided that hearing better beat out the need to deny my aging and I was fitted for hearing aids.

They’re not your grandfather’s hearing aids.

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Filed Under: Baby Boomers, humor, Newspaper Column, Power of Attitude Tagged With: aging, apps, health and happiness, health attitude, hearing, hearing aid, humor, old, quality of life

Are You Listening or Hearing?

June 18, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

HEARING uses just the  ears.

LISTENING uses the head and the heart.

We HEAR a lot of “stuff;” everything from the traffic going by our windows at night to the sound of a baby laughing in the park, to the radio in our car when we drive to work. However, we do not always LISTEN.

Most sounds do not require that we listen; therefore we don’t. However, if you’re dealing with someone that matters to you (whether that’s a co-worker, client, or life-partner), you want to make sure you LISTEN, not just HEAR. It’s important to remember, that unlike hearing, listening is a two-way process.

To listen well, here are a few techniques:

  • Notice the feelings, do not get stuck on the words
  • Make eye contact (without staring and becoming “creepy”)
  • Adopt an open posture
  • Confirm what you think was said
  • Ignore distractions
  • When it’s your turn to talk, slow down and speak calmly
  • Speak in small chunks and make sure to pause
  • Ask for feedback and acknowledge it when you get it.

Listening well is an undervalued skill. Learn it and watch how many fewer conflicts you get into and how much happier you are.

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Filed Under: Communicating, Conflict Management, Motivational Monday Tagged With: active listening, conflicts, effective communication, feelings, hearing, open posture

Motivational Monday Memo: Slow Down and Listen

January 30, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

To get answers, you have to ask questions.

To hear the answers, you have to listen.

Our minds listen “faster” than people can speak.

Therefore, especially when we’re  busy, we sometimes don’t take the time so slow down and really listen to what others are telling us. We respond to what we think they’re saying, not necessarily what they are really saying.

Take just a few seconds to “slow down your listening speed,” especially when the conversation is important. You’ll hear what you normally don’t, therefore, you will diminish the possibility of conflict. You will also actually be more productive because you will have fewer repeat conversations.
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Filed Under: Conflict Management, Member Benefits, Motivational Monday, Relationships, Self Talk Tagged With: conflict, conversations, hearing, listening, self-talk

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