Choose your battles carefully.
Yes, it’s important to stand up for what you believe in.
Equally true, it’s essential to be true to who you are.
However, it’s also necessary to understand which battles require us to draw a “line in the sand.”
Before launching forward, take a moment to ask yourself:
- Is this the hill I want to “die on?” In other words, how important is this argument to me really?
- What is my intention in fighting this fight? Am I just trying to prove I’m smarter or I know more? Am I trying to put someone else down for his or her past “wins” when we’ve argued before?
- If I win this argument, what will be the cost to my relationship and my self-esteem? Is it worth it?
- Would I rather be happy or be right? In the end, I think we’d rather have been happy most of our life instead of correct most of our life. (Of course, we are sometimes both.)
Wait a few minutes to decide what you want to do before you move forward.
Not every issue requires a battle.