The anger you feel might not be real.
The four “primary colors” of emotions are:
- Sad
- Mad
- Glad
- Afraid
Virtually all other feelings come from some combination of those.
The 5 Year Rule
Before getting upset, ask, “Will anybody really know or care about this five years from now?”
If the answer is “no,” take a deep breath, relax, and let it go.
Most things will be “no.”
If the answer is “yes,” you have a crisis on your hands and getting upset about it will not help you deal with it. Instead, come up with a rational plan to move forward.
This does not mean deny your feelings, rather deal with them when the crisis is over.
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Our Feelings are Our Own
Nobody makes anybody feel anything.
We learn to react to events by feeling certain ways. We can learn to react differently if we want to.
It won’t always be easy but it’s definitely worth it.
How to Forgive After a Divorce
by Neil Keifer
When most people get married they hope it will last throughout their lifetime. However, sometimes that’s simply not the case. When two people get a divorce it can often turn ugly. This can leave both parties with resentment towards things done and said during a divorce. In order to move forward it is necessary to forgive the other party and move on. There are several key things to keep in mind if you have gone through a divorce and are trying to begin the healing process. [Read more…]
Understand the Rules of the Universe
There are rules to the universe.
They cannot be broken nor changed to suit your whims or fantasies.
Complaining about them will not help.
Instead, learn them and use them wisely.
It’s normal to get frustrated about “the way things are” instead of “the way they should be.” That’s part of life.
It’s also okay to feel the frustration or anger. The problem presents itself when we let those feelings overcome us, causing us to remain stagnant – or even to fall backwards.
Feel the disappointment or frustration.
Then, get some support and move through it, learning from the experience.