Understand the Rules of the Universe

April 9, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

There are rules to the universe.

They cannot be broken nor changed to suit your whims or fantasies.

Complaining about them will not help.

Instead, learn them and use them wisely.

It’s normal to get frustrated about “the way things are” instead of “the way they should be.” That’s part of life.

It’s also okay to feel the frustration or anger. The problem presents itself when we let those feelings overcome us, causing us to remain stagnant – or even to fall backwards.

Feel the disappointment or frustration.

Then, get some support and move through it, learning from the experience.

You will get better results and you’ll also be happier.

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Calibrating Your Thought Compass: Which Thought Feels Better?

February 7, 2012 by Featured Author

By Dave Berman

Your feelings reflect your thoughts.

It may often seem that your emotional state is caused by external circumstances, but this “outside-in” paradigm is an illusion and your reality is actually created “inside-out.” The Thought Compass is a way to remember how true this is and to guide you in selecting better feeling, more useful thoughts.

Just as a regular compass points north and helps you find your way in the forest, your Thought Compass is calibrated to True North, represented by holding both arms straight out in front of you with the palms of your hands together. In this position, you sense connection to your inner wisdom, an emotional GPS system. You are aware of feelings of freedom, love, joy, appreciation, knowledge and empowerment. True North indicates high quality thinking that can be believed, trusted and acted upon. Take a moment now to recognize your relationship to True North. Find some thoughts that bring you to this good feeling place.

Feelings are always the indicator of when your thinking is on course, as well as when thoughts are off course. Remember a time now when you had to make a big decision but weren’t yet ready to choose. Indecision is common. Use your Thought Compass now to calibrate how it feels. Keep your left arm straight in front of you and begin moving your right arm clockwise until you find the point that represents this feeling. Indecision, by definition, is a lack of readiness to take action. Notice the contrast between this feeling and True North, where you do feel that inner direction to take action. Sometimes we may call this a “gut instinct.” When it kicks in, it means you’re ready to believe the thoughts causing that feeling, ready to take action based on them, and you’ve calibrated back to True North.

Play around with some other feelings now.

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Overcoming Disappointment & Setbacks

October 24, 2011 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

There is no such thing as failure; merely feedback.

Slip-ups are inevitable.

The difference between someone who succeeds and someone who doesn’t is the way she reacts to it.

Successful people look at it as a setback. Yes, they might be frustrated. No, they aren’t happy about it. But, they realize that they can go at it again after making some changes.

People who do not achieve their goals “freak out” when things don’t go the way they want. They look at it as failure and the end of the road. The immediately follow up thought to that is, “As long as it didn’t work, why bother to keep trying?” They quit.

When things don’t go the way you want, it’s OK to be disappointed but look at what didn’t work; figure out how to change it; and go at it again.

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