Getting Past What Holds You Back with Baby Boomer Weight Loss Expert Scott 'Q' Marcus
Those choices are based in large part on how you viewed the world at the time, which is what we call “attitude.”
Your attitude is “the complex interaction between feelings and beliefs that affect how you view the world – and therefore how you react to it.” Therefore, your attitude is made up out of feelings and your beliefs, which stem from your thoughts.
Being independent means being able to get along and function on your own without needing anyone else’s help nor approval. It also means you are open to hearing other’s ideas and to learning better ways to move forward.
However, being stubborn means insisting that you know how to do what you do irrespective of evidence or offered support; even if it’s not getting the best results. Stubbornness means you’re more determined to get your way rather than get it done well. In reality, stubbornness harms relationships and holds you back.
It’s a sign of strength to ask for help when you need it. It’s a sign of maturity to recognize when you need the help.
Recognize them. Get help.
Equally true, it’s essential to be true to who you are.
However, it’s also necessary to understand which battles require us to draw a “line in the sand.”
Before launching forward, take a moment to ask yourself:
Wait a few minutes to decide what you want to do before you move forward.
Not every issue requires a battle.
She introduced herself and asked if I had ever worked with someone like her.
“No,” I replied.
“On the other end of this line is someone hearing-impaired,” she explained. “When she wants to call someone, she contacts me and then types what she wants to say into a device. It then appears on a screen in front of me. I’ll read it to you. You reply to me. I type it back. It’s a slow process but it allows her to ‘talk’ to you. Ready?”
“Yes,” I replied hesitantly.
She then — in a stilted, halting manner — read the words as they traipsed across her screen. Not waiting for full sentences to appear, she pronounced each syllable as it materialized, like someone reading a news crawler on the bottom of the TV screen; with the caveat being that the text was scrolling too slowly. Not only was it a sluggish process, it was eerie, and unnerving.
“My… name… is… Mary…” read the operator. “I’m… sorry… to… tell… you… that… your… father… has… passed… away…”
Over the nine years I’ve been publishing this weekly column, I have written about my wife, mother, children, grandmother, aunts; even my pets. However, there’s a glaring omission: my father.
Obviously, I had one; and yes, I knew him. However, we didn’t get along and my rebellion manifested itself as me growing up to be his polar opposite. Over the years, I invested a great deal in therapy to release myself from the behaviorial bonds that I felt shackled me to a person I did not want to be.
We learn to react to events by feeling certain ways. We can learn to react differently if we want to.