After 17 years of writing a column syndicated in Northwest CA (and on this site), I will be in my first national magazine!
You can read the article by following this link.
This question struck me like a lightning bolt! I imagine I’m not the only individual to be struck either.
After struggling with a pessimistic thought process for years, I finally realized I’m as normal as the guy or gal sitting beside me on a train or bus. What makes us different and unique is how we decide to fix our pessimistic mindset. Many of us constantly climb this world looking one way… downward! There’s a constant battle between our mind and heart. We want and need what the heart knows to be right! However, our mind argues that we are pathetic, feeble and most times unworthy!
Rather, anything we desire comes to us only through a very specific process – if it arrives at all. It matters not whether it’s trivial, mundane, or life altering. There is an unalterable four-step progression. More importantly, that entire sequence moves forward based entirely on the words we use in our heads.
Many times, we mistakenly say, “need;” but in actuality, it’s “want.” After all, if we were really motivated to go after what we needed, we’d all be healthy and fit with great attitudes and perfect relationships, wouldn’t we? We take action – or we don’t, because we want to – or don’t, NOT because we need to.
Let’s use a specific example: The holidays are nigh and I know I will see family. Neither wanting snide comments nor condescending sneers, I decide to drop a few pounds. To my previous point, I’ve needed to lose weight for some time, but until I wanted to, I was not motivated. Now, having entered this “acceptance stage,” I acknowledge that not only do I need to – but also I actually want the results that will come from it.
I am in motion.
Bank on the fact that you will be happy, healthy, and fulfilled.
Believe that it’s going to work out the way you want it.
If it turns out otherwise, you’ll adjust.
I am constantly exposed to new information.
When what I learn no longer matches what I knew, it’s healthy to adjust what I think and what I feel. Simply holding on to yesterday’s beliefs because I’ve had them for a long time is no reason to continue to harbor them. It’s healthier to change.