Getting Past What Holds You Back with Baby Boomer Weight Loss Expert Scott 'Q' Marcus
Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” As part of that series, one of the things we went over were the “10 Commandments of Changing Habits.” This is one of those “commandments.”
Setting goals does not guarantee you will get to have the results you want.
Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.
Difficult times don’t throw us off; it’s mistakenly believing that we wouldn’t have difficult times that throws us for a loop.
If we think it’s a straight shot from here to there, when we do hit a barrier we think, “It’s all over! I’ve lost my mojo.”
Even the best relationships cause some pain. However, we don’t dump our partner just because we don’t see eye-to-eye. We work through it. Expect that there will be difficult times – and expect you’ll work through it.
Since 80% of setbacks are caused by the same couple of issues repeated over and over and over again, a rough patch – if handled correctly – gives us an opportunity to finally get past a long-term barrier we’ve had that’s consistently held us back, probably causing relapses.
Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.
In other words, it’s better to walk a block and really do it than to swear you’ll run a mile and never get around to it.
Avoid saying “I will try” or referring to your lapses in the third person (such as “the weight is just not coming off.”) If after saying, “I will…” you’re not sure you can or you really will, that step is probably too large.
Make it small enough so that you have no excuse to not do it.
Note: This last weekend was the launch of my seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” Over the next few weeks, we’ll take a quick look at each one of the five.
The number one reason people don’t move forward is they don’t describe their desired outcome well. They say things like “I want to feel better” or “I want to be more organized.”
Describe success in as much depth as you can.
Use numbers whenever possible. Create images. Focus on the feelings of being successful. Use concrete descriptions.
Counter-productive examples:
Positive examples:
Let’s face it; we’re overly critical.
If – for example – we’re losing weight and we have a day of which we’re not proud, we say we were “bad,” or we “cheated,” or we beat ourselves up for being “lazy.”
We’re not lazy. We’re certainly not bad.
Don’t label yourself for slip-ups. Rather, describe the error.
For example, wouldn’t it feel better, instead of saying, “I was bad today;” to say “I was ‘sloppy’ or ‘careless'”? One implies that you’re a person of lesser moral value. The other shows you’re human and you made a mistake.