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The Most Important Question

April 10, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

road-sign-with-question-mark

You followed a passage faithfully through a lush forest, now standing at a fork in that path; one bearing leads slightly northwest, the other, tending to the southwest. Standing at this juncture, you place your hand over your eyes to block the glare of the setting sun, and strain while scanning the horizon. Ahead lays a long, grassy, seemingly endless prairie with hills on either horizon, obstructing your view from where each trails leads.

Yet, you have stood in this place before.

You know with certainty that in one direction lays a picturesque, emerald city, chock-full of light, music, and gladness. In that township is great joy and contentment. Should you opt however for road number two, what waits at its terminus is far less glorious, resembling the ruins of the firestorms of Dresden. There lies darkness and foreboding, sadness and frustration.

Although either direction assures you a safe arrival at your destination, the route to happiness is rocky, long, and hilly; it will require effort. Its alternative beckons with a flat, easy-to-navigate, and well-worn, shorter course.

Which path do you choose?

We’d all like to say that we’d choose the first. After all, look what waits at the end of either. It’s a no-brainer.

Yet, when we analyze our histories, the reality is that too often, we opt for the alternative; the smoother, shorter, easier pathway guaranteed to lead in the end to a sense of defeat and unhappiness.

Let’s examine some real-life situations, shall we?

Stick with your diet for one more hour and go to bed happy and proud, or give in and eat the bag of chips now, berating yourself all day tomorrow for tonight’s poor decision. Which do you choose?

Hold your tongue until you can figure out a more productive way to bring up your frustration to your wife, or let loose with a blast of heated epithets driving a hurtful spike in your most important relationship. Which do you do?

Put $200 away into your retirement fund, knowing it will be out of reach for the next decade, or buy a new TV even though you don’t need one. “A” or “B” please?

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Filed Under: Change, Habits, Health, Intentions, Newspaper Column Tagged With: bad habits, emotions, feelings, great joy, happiness, sadness, thoughts and feelings, unhappiness

Why Do We Keep Doing That?

April 3, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

the-thinkerWhen I attended UCLA —

during the late Pliocene and early Pleistocene epochs — a story circulated among the undergrads about the ultimate final exam, which supposedly had taken place in a Philosophy class.

As urban legend had it, the students, bleary eyed from sleepless nights of contemplating The Theory of Forms and defending or arguing whether one can indeed step twice in the same river waited while the professor sauntered into the mini amphitheater, faced them square on, dramatically waiting for silence. Then theatrically, he pronounced, “For your final exam, answer only this one question.”

With staged flourish, he turned to the chalkboard and scrawled:

“Why?”

Most in attendance did not expect this, and ascribing to a more crass philosophy — “If you can’t dazzle ‘em with brilliance, baffle ‘em with B.S.” — utilized the full allotted period to elaborate on this ultimate of all queries. After all, a question with such far-reaching bounds must be worthy of many pages and much ink.

Yet, as the story unfolds, the student who received the highest grade took no more than ten seconds to pen his rejoinder, strolling from the room almost immediately, while histrionically dropping his blue book on the instructor’s desk.

Simply, he had written,

“Why not?”

Now it’s my turn: “Why?”

“Why do we do what we do when we know that what we do will move us further from health, happiness or success?”

Before the knee-jerk reply, “I don’t,” escapes your lips, consider these examples. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Change, Intentions, mental health, Newspaper Column, Overcoming Temptation, Weight Loss Tagged With: changing habits, creatures of habit, philosophical question, philosophy, philosophy class, unhealthy habits, urban legend

It’s OK to Change Your Mind

April 1, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

It is perfectly acceptable to change your mind.

Making a decision

We have the right to change our minds.

Sometimes, we feel that simply because we agreed to do something – or we decided not to – that we are locked into that position “forever.”

As adults, we can decide later that what we decided previously is no longer appropriate for us.

Having said that, as adults, we have to make sure we tell others who will be affected – and we give them enough advance notice to adjust.

Also, realize that they might disagree with our new decision. If that happens, listen to what they have to say.

They just might be correct.

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Filed Under: Change, Motivational Monday Tagged With: decision making, indecision, making decisions

Do 1 New Thing Every Day

March 18, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Make time each and every day to try one new thing.

New-blastIt doesn’t have to be big. It doesn’t have to be complicated. It doesn’t have to be scary.

As examples:

  • Walk down a new street
  • Try a new recipe
  • Add 5 minutes into your fitness regimen (or start one)
  • Leave a note for your spouse, partner, or child
  • Read the first few pages in a book you’ve been planning to open
  • Go to bed earlier (or later)
  • Try a new fruit

In effect, change up your pattern.

Research shows that we do better with our established patterns if we also try new patterns. (Plus it’s fun.)

Shake it up today – and have some fun!

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Filed Under: Change, Motivational Monday Tagged With: change, inspiration index, lifestyle change, new patterns

3 Habits Of Healthy People

February 26, 2013 by MikeTremba Leave a Comment

happy-smiling-sunshine

Has being healthy become synonymous with being unhappy?

Who knows.

What I do know is that there’s no reason working toward physical health should have the nasty side effect of emotional displeasure.

When I first started out on a path toward physical fitness, I made a lot of sacrifices. Some of my favorite things to eat—like fast food, fatty, sugary pastries and expensive, thousand-calorie coffee drinks—and favorite things to do—like sit on the couch all afternoon flipping channels, or sleeping until noon—became relics of my past.

I’ll admit, at first I was pretty miserable. Even after I started seeing results in my physical health and appearance, I couldn’t help but reminisce for the days when I could eat what I wanted, do what I pleased (or just do nothing, since I’m being honest) and sleep as late as I’d like.

But through it all, I somehow snapped out of it. I found ways to turn my healthy life into a happy one, and I want to share my top tips for being happy and healthy.

Before I do, though, it’s important to understand what “being happy” really means.

Happiness is a simple concept that’s difficult to achieve.

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Filed Under: Change, Exercise, Guest Author, Happiness, mental health, Weight Loss Tagged With: friendships, happiness, healthy lifestyle, losing weight, optimism, physical fitness, physical health

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