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Worst Day Ever!

December 18, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Saturday sucked.

Our airport is to travelers what tar pits were to wooly mammoths.

Everything is Jim Dandy until you unsuspectingly enter it and find yourself condemned to spend eternity held in place in its “your-flight-has-been-canceled; please-see-the-attendant” inextricable goo.

I was to conduct a communication workshop for a Seattle agency on Monday, having reserved a flight for the previous Saturday, allowing me to attend a concert when I arrived. Sunday’s itinerary would consist of roaming the Emerald City and I would return home Monday evening, after leading the seminar.

It was going to be a good trip.

The operative word is “was.”

Two hours before take-off, a text message informed me that my flight was canceled due to our oft-times, unrelenting fog. Rebooked for a later flight, I was ominously primed,

“There’s no guarantee it will go either. Hope for the best.”

I am not a travel agent but I bet they agree that’s never a wise travel strategy.

After doing my part — hoping — and impatiently waiting through three more hours of delays, only to be canceled again, re-booked again was I for an evening flight, with arrival in the wee hours of the next morning. I’d obviously miss the concert but could still salvage my Sunday; this of course contingent on this latest itinerary actually falling into place, unlikely since the obstinate grey murkiness that blanketed the runway seemed fused to the blacktop.

Angry, frustrated, and now worried that I would lose my speaking fee and damage my reputation, I needed options.

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Filed Under: Change, Happiness, Inspiration, Newspaper Column, Self Talk Tagged With: air travel, canceled fights, frustration, speaking, stress, travel

Lower Your Voice to Get What You Want

October 28, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

angry-men-in-conflict-yelling

Yelling can be as abusive as hitting.

We all get frustrated; that’s normal.

It’s how we handle it that matters.

As difficult as it might be to stay calm when things are going like you’d like to them to, remember, getting louder does not get the message across any better. Quite the contrary, it generates barriers.

Slow down. Take a deep breath. Go for a walk. Think of your intention.

Then, calmly, try again.

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Filed Under: Communicating, Conflict Management, Intentions, Motivational Monday Tagged With: bad, communication barriers, communication improvement, effective communication, frustration, stress communication

Dealing with Complainers

October 16, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus

They are numerous, ever-present, ubiquitous; present at work, parties, and even family gatherings.

complaining-man-ranting If attitude is indeed contagious, they are the Ebola virus of a positive outlook. Bringing their own “gloomy sunshine” wherever they go, they leave behind a trail of mental and emotional destruction wider than a hurricane’s wake. Should we discover the cure to all illnesses tomorrow, they would protest that it put the doctors out of business.

woman-rantingWe can tell they’re nearby, even before they open their mouths. Dour expressions firmly etched into grim-faced expressions and unconstrained bitterness dripping from their souls, they pummel, pound, and persist until they reveal the dark cloud behind any silver lining. Even after short encounters with these denizens of dourness, their dark energy can drain the happiness from even the most upbeat individual. They are Eyore to our Tigger, Ying to our Yang, frowns to our smiles; they are (insert ominous music…) the “bearers of badatude.”

Whether it’s due to the state of the world, the change in seasons, or just bad luck, they do seem to have multiplied lately. (Maybe it’s their mating season?) For whatever the reason, it seems more difficult to avoid them than it used to be.

Ever the helper — and in the interest of public service and a better community attitude — I offer a few suggestions on how to deal with complainers.

Rule One: Understand that when a freight train is roaring down the tracks at you, GET OUT OF THE FREAKIN’ WAY! Do not plant yourself firmly, attempting to block its path, expecting to convince it to take the switch. Instead, realize that batatude folks are better about plowing you over and dragging your formerly upbeat demeanor into a negative mood than you will ever be at changing their direction. They are professionals; having honed the dark art to a fine talent, they inflict bad attitude among even the most optimistic individuals. You — on the other hand — pale in experience when it comes to turning it around. It’s not a fair competition; don’t even try. You will lose. Move elsewhere; if not physically, then certainly to the happy place in your head.

Having not been able to circumnavigate Mister Miserable, the next step is to put it in perspective by employing the “Five Year Rule.”

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Filed Under: Conflict Management, mental health, Newspaper Column, Power of Attitude Tagged With: attitude, bad attitude, complainers, dealing with others, feelings, five year rule, frustration, holidays, relationships

Success is not a Light Switch

October 14, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Success is not an “on” or “off” kind of thing.

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Dimmer SwitchIt ebbs and flows.

If one must use the light switch metaphor, it’s wiser to consider success to be a dimmer switch. Some days it’s at full brightness. Other times, it’s very dark.

But, it’s always on.

When you feel lost, look for ways to increase the brightness.

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Filed Under: Failure, Happiness, mental health, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Power of Attitude, Self Talk, Success Tagged With: begin again, frustration, new beginnings, restarting, road to success, starting over, success

Pressing the Reset Button

October 7, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

You can press “Reset” whenever you want.

reset-button

Anytime it feels like things are not going the way you expected, you can press “reset.”

You don’t have to wait until the New Year, next month, Monday, “when the holidays are over,” or “when things settle down.” You don’t even have to wait until tomorrow.

You can do it right now.

And what’s really cool about the “reset button,” is you can push it over and over and over again.

It works every time.

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Filed Under: Failure, Happiness, mental health, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles, Power of Attitude, Self Talk, Success Tagged With: begin again, frustration, happiness, lifestyle change, new beginnings, restarting, starting over

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