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Fear of Success vs Fear of Failure

April 9, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

There are few reasons why we do not achieve our dreams.

fear-of-success-&-failure

Yes, there are “acts of God.”

Philosophically, one might even accept fate or destiny as insurmountable barriers. Yet, aside from those, the immense majority of people living lives of quiet desperation reside there because of what’s going on in their minds more than on our planet. With credit to Walt Kelly, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” We — not others — are more times than not, our worst adversaries.

I mean this not in a condescending, judgmental manner, as one might hear from no-nonsense hyper-achievers, “Just pull yourself up from the bootstraps, suck it in, and get it done. Don’t be such a wimp!” One cannot change years of brain wave patterns in the same manner in which he switches on or off a light. Negative thoughts today — click — positive henceforth. My objective today is also not designed to illustrate how messed up we are; I don’t think that’s true, we’re all doing the best we know how to do.

With appropriate disclaimers admitted, if we accept that we are standing in our own way, it begs the question, “Why would we do that?” Why do we NOT reach further, dream larger, and believe better?

The primary answer is: Fear; Fear of Success, and its dastardly sibling, Fear of Failure.

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Filed Under: Newspaper Column, Overcoming Obstacles, Self Talk Tagged With: change, control, destiny, emotion, failure, fate, fear of failure, fear of success, school, success

Think Smaller for Better Results

April 7, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  As part of that series, one of the things we went over were the “10 Commandments of Changing Habits.” This is one of those “commandments.”

Thou shalt think smaller

Make it Small and Do it NOWYou have made the process of changing too big and too complicated. You created your life in small, almost invisible steps. That is the way you will change it.

It sucks, but it’s true.

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Filed Under: Change, goals, Habits, Motivational Monday, planning, Relationships, Success, Think 1st Tagged With: 10 commandments of habit change, change, changing habits, goals, habit, habit change, small steps, success, Think 1st, weight loss

Lessons from a Child

April 1, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

child handing flower to adult

She was dressed in pink sweatpants with the word, “sweet” emblazoned on her diaper-clad bottom.

On her feet were brown clogs. Atop her head was a wool, knitted, patchwork cap of pink, yellow, and red, giving her a pastel “Rastafarian” look. However, instead of dreadlocks wrapped within, a waterfall of blonde, bouncy, curls framed her wide-open blue eyes and light complexion.

In her chubby, small, right hand, she carried what used to be a cookie; now, however, all that remained was a half eaten, saliva-covered, dollop of doughy goo with a smattering of pink frosting encrusting the edges. “Cookie” in hand, she bounded as if on springs from one corner of the bakery to the other, her grandfather always in eye shot, as she pointed to each of the items on the bottom shelf of the bakery’s glass case, looking to him for the correct word.

“Cookie,” he said, as she pointed to a green, sprinkle covered cut-out of a dinosaur.

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Filed Under: Baby Boomers, Newspaper Column, Power of Attitude Tagged With: change, doubt, facebook, habit, how, music, perfectionist, productivity, smile, weight loss

Don’t Expect Gurantees of Success

March 31, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  As part of that series, one of the things we went over were the “10 Commandments of Changing Habits.” This is one of those “commandments.”

Expect not guarantees of success.

woman-running-through-tape

Setting goals does not guarantee you will get to have the results you want.

However, NOT setting them does guarantee that you will stay where you are.

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Filed Under: Change, Failure, goals, Habits, Motivational Monday, planning, Relationships, Success Tagged With: 10 commandments of habit change, change, changing habits, excuses, goals, habit, habit change, productivity, success, weight loss

Time is Out of Your Control

March 24, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

time-is-passingNote: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  As part of that series, one of the things we went over were the “10 Commandments of Changing Habits.” This is one of those “commandments.”

Thou shalt accept time is out of thy control.

The process will take more time than you want and it will be more complicated than you prefer – but it will neither take as long as, nor will it be as difficult as you fear.

Conversely, it will feel far better than you expect when you “arrive.”

When the road seems long, keep your eyes on the prize and focus on the benefits, not the effort.

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Filed Under: Change, goals, Group Support, Habits, Motivational Monday, Relationships Tagged With: 10 commandments of habit change, change, changing habits, control, frustration, habit, habit change, productivity, taking time, weight loss

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