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Father’s Lessons

June 14, 2017 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

At day’s end, Randy would throw his extra change in a grey, ceramic tray on top of his dresser.

He considered the change “found money” and periodically cashed it in as a “fun fund.”

“That’s odd,” he thought, “all the quarters are missing.”

Sadly, he realizes that Sean, his 11-year-old son, must have taken them; obviously no one broke in and stole $3.75 in change. Now comes the bigger question: What to do?

Being a single dad, the decision was his alone. He thought back to his own childhood, about what his father would have done. “No, spanking is out of the question,” he decides. His strongest memories of his own father are fear; “That is not what I want Sean to remember about me.”

He calls out, “Sean, I need to talk to you.”

“What’s up Dad?” Sean says as he enters the room. 

“I’ve got a problem,” he replies. “I had a bunch of quarters in this tray,” tapping on the edge of ceramic dish, “They’re not there anymore.  I don’t know what happened.”

He pauses; giving his son a chance to admit to his error. Will he make the correct choice? The silence is loud; he knows it’s got to be deafening for his boy. After a moment, Sean meekly volunteers, while staring at the floor, “I took one.” The lump in his throat is audible.

“One?”

Pause “Maybe two.” Longer pause. “It could have been three.”

Randy recalls his own youth; the fear in admitting wrong-doing; his dad explosively red with fury, screaming at Randy inches from his face.

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Filed Under: family, Holidays, Intentions, Newspaper Column, Relationships Tagged With: children, fatherhood, fathers and sons, fathers day, parenting, parenting skills

Avoiding Negative Drivers

August 31, 2015 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Just to clarify, by “negative drivers,” I don’t mean people with road rage or people who tailgate.

“Drivers” are best thought of as models for inner patterns that influence our thinking, feeling and therefore the behavior we will do. Since they begin when we’re small children, one can say they are the voices of external authorities such as our parents. When we’re very young, we need our parents to direct us. However, as we age, we must take a look at what “drives” our behaviors and decide whether they’re still helping us or harming us. (For a great overview of drivers, follow this link.)

The five main drivers are:

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Filed Under: Happiness, Motivational Monday, Overcoming Perfectionsim, Psychology, Success Tagged With: human psychology, inner dialog, inner dialogue, inner doubts, inner voices, parenting, psychological impact

6 Ways to be a Better Parent

January 29, 2015 by Featured Author Leave a Comment

father's and baby's hands

“I’m not going to do things the way my parents did when I have kids.”

How many times have we all said this, only to revert back to what’s comfortable — what we know — when our feet are actually held to the fire? Instead of going against the grain of what we heard as kids, we just emulate mom and dad. Later, we feel terrible and can’t believe what came out of our mouths or what we did.

Becoming a better parent is more difficult than a lot of things, including climbing Mount Kilimanjaro and snapping a selfie with that rascal Bigfoot. However, it’s completely possible when you set out to make small changes on a daily basis. The key is to be consistent and to stay on track, not to become the mother or father you think you should be overnight.

Below are a few of the simplest ways to make a revolutionary change in your parenting style over the long haul. [Read more…]

Filed Under: family, Guest Author, Relationships Tagged With: guest author, parenting, parenting skills

Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-07-31

July 31, 2011 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

  • Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-07-24 http://nblo.gs/kNuav #
  • How’s your #attitude 4 quick anonymous questions: http://conta.cc/gDqBkV Thanks – and please RT #
  • Monday Motivational Memo: Staying Motivated http://nblo.gs/kPXSY #
  • Latest newsletter is on line with videos, humor, and inspiration pass it on. http://conta.cc/mQEYXH #thistimeimeanit #attitude #
  • Thanks to Rich DiGirolamo for bringing this to my attention. It’s worth reading. http://fb.me/HyIrFlyp #
  • Just got off the phone with my own coach. “Overwhelm” is the first step towards change! I guess I’m changing a lot! #
  • Socializing Without Eating: Is it Really Possible? http://nblo.gs/kVKmT #
  • This is an important – albeit alarming – story for middle aged women (some of my favorite people)…. http://fb.me/EIBbMZ64 #
  • New writer Amanda Kidd joins the site and writes about how to be more optimistic. A great article http://bit.ly/nr0xQz #
  • Can We Be Social Without Having to Go Out to Eat?: http://EzineArticles.com/6455337 #
  • This Too Shall Pass: Optimism is the Key http://nblo.gs/kYP1R #
  • Just updated our archive of newsletters; if you haven’t checked it out recently, please do. http://fb.me/DMHeZ1Cl #
  • Check out the updated newsletter archive: http://t.co/0G5cSQF #

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Filed Under: Weekly Twitter Feeds Tagged With: alarming story, anonymous questions, attitude, coach, inspiration, middle aged women, newsletter archive, optimism, parenting, videos humor, weekly updates, worth reading

Video about Goal Setting

January 24, 2011 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

In a recent post, I discussed “Five Things to do to be Happier & More Successful Starting Now.” One of those was writing down your goals. (I have even provided a complimentary downloadable goal planner for you.)

Today, on my Facebook feed, my good friend, Scott Hammond of BecomeABetterFather.com posted this 90 second video tied to the same thing. The information is good and I always enjoy supporting my friends. Check it out. (He too has posted a goal planner; it’s probably not as good as mine, I’m sure it’s valuable! Just joking of course…)

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Filed Under: goals, planning, Success, Video Tagged With: fatherhood, friends, goal planner, parenting, scott hammond

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