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You’re Going to Pay For it Either Way

February 26, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

man-paying-moneySince change only comes about as a result of fear, force, or pain; we’ll do what we can to deny we need to change as long as possible

— or at least until we’ve been psychically knocked upside the head long enough and can no longer disagree that things aren’t going as planned.

Should you wish to question that premise that change only comes about due to an excessive amount of yicky-ness, can we first agree that no one, not one person, wakes up, conducts a self-inventory, and exclaims, “Wow! Things are perfect! Let me see how I can muck them up”?

The unfortunate counter-reality is we decide to modify our lives only when two conditions are met:

  1. Life is not performing anywhere optimal level — and
  2. We can no longer fool ourselves into believing, should we follow the present course, it will change anytime soon

Only once we are defeated, will we begin the process.

It’s sad, but it’s true.

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Filed Under: Change, Habits, Happiness, Health, Newspaper Column, Power of Attitude Tagged With: change, fear, force, frustration, lifestyle change, mental health, pain, resisttance, sad, therapy

Does This Harness Make Me Look Fat?

February 5, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

My friend celebrated his 60th birthday by jumping out of an airplane.

screaming parachutist

(Just to clarify, he was wearing a parachute.) When I asked why, he replied, “It was on my bucket list.”

“Wow!” said I. “I don’t think I’d have the courage to do something like that.
Good for you.”

Understand I am not a very adventurous sort, and furthermore, nothing on my “bucket list” has even a remote possibility that while engaging in the activity, I could end up in pieces small enough to fit in said bucket. After all, the way I look at it is if God wanted us to jump out of a perfectly functioning airplane, he wouldn’t have given them locking doors.

Now — should you be so inclined — before mounting high horse and considering me sans courage, realize I get my jollies as a public speaker. According to common knowledge, more folks are afraid of doing that than dying. Therefore, I safely rationalize that my skydiving sexagenarian buddy would watch me in front of an audience and say,

“Wow! I don’t think I’d have the courage to do something like that. Good for you.”

Check. And mate.

Recently, a speaking engagement had me presenting on a cruise ship.

(I know, it’s a difficult job, but someone had to do it.) If you’ve have not had the opportunity to be on one of these floating towns, understand they are indeed titanic. (Hmmm, poor choice of words; let’s just say they’re huge.) Moreover, our ship, Allure of the Seas, is the largest ever.

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Filed Under: Change, humor, Motivation, Newspaper Column, Weight Loss Tagged With: cruise, diet, excitement, fear, heart healthy, weight, zip lining

Someday, somewhere, somehow…

January 29, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

At this very moment, a frustrated, frightened middle-aged woman is standing on a scale in a state of disbelief.

Depressed Overweight Woman

She hadn’t dare climb upon it for years, afraid of the number she’d see — and terrified of what it would mean. Today however, after finding nothing in the closet that fits, the anxiety of not knowing overrode the faux safety of denial.

Her fears were realized.

As she continues to stare at the number between her toes, confidence is dwindling. Lost, she understands she needs to do something. She’s also not sure she can.

Today, a foreman will unexpectedly be put face-to-face with the unpleasant reality that he isn’t as young as he used to be.

Long ago, feeling uncomfortable in ever-tightening pants, he shifted from a belt to suspenders. After all, he didn’t need to buy larger trousers; this was a temporary situation. As a million times before, he’d drop those “few pounds” as soon as things “settled down.”

Funny thing, that; they didn’t, and his belly now is profound. Having not been witness to his toes in a blue moon, moving has become laborious, bending a chore, and breathing — well, it’s just not as easy as it used to be.

Before today’s calendar changes pages, in the midst of a frustrating conversation with a client, his shortness of breath will ramp up severely; he’ll begin sweating profusely, feel light-headed, and become unmistakably aware of an overwhelming pain in his arms and back.

The day will end not at all the way he planned. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Baby Boomers, Change, Group Support, Inspiration, Motivation, Newspaper Column, Think 1st, Weight Loss Tagged With: bad habits, change, diet, fear, heart healthy, Hope, lifestyle change, weight

Dealing with Fear and Lowering Anxiety

May 6, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

When you get scared, focus on Today.

Tomorrow will take care of itself.

crystal-ball

Most of the time, fear “lives in the future.” In other words, the vast majority of times, when we get frightened, it’s because we’re thinking about something that might happen, or could happen. Fortunately, it’s usually not happening right now.

If you’re afraid you will not be able to accomplish your goals, that means you’re thinking too far out. Slow yourself down, and go back to the “Think 1st” philosophy:

  • Pick 1 Thing

  • Make it Small

  • Focus on Today

That will calm you down enough to resolve the problem.

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Filed Under: Motivational Monday, Overcoming Obstacles Tagged With: anxiety, courage, fear, strength and courage

Terrifying Video: El Camino del Rey Narrow Walkway

February 16, 2012 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Sometimes, you have to face your fear to change.

This example however, is extreme. This 9 minute video will keep you on the edge of your seat.

According to Wikipedia: El Caminito del Rey (English: The King’s little pathway) is a walkway, now fallen into disrepair, pinned along the steep walls of a narrow gorge in El Chorro, near Álora in the province of Málaga, Spain. The name is often shortened to Camino del Rey (English: King’s pathway).

The walkway is one metre (3 feet and 3 inches) in width, and rises over 100 metres (350 feet) above the river below. Constructed of concrete resting on steel rails supported by stanchions at around 45 degrees into the rock face, it is currently in a highly deteriorated state and there are numerous sections where part or all of the concrete top has collapsed. The result is large open air gaps that are bridged only by narrow steel beams or other support fixtures. Very few of the original handrails exist but a safety-wire runs the length of the path. Several people have lost their lives on the walkway in recent years and after two fatal accidents in 1999 and 2000 the local government closed both entrances, but not the gift shop.

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Filed Under: Misc, Motivation, Video Tagged With: caminito del rey, disrepair, facing fear, fatal accidents, fear, narrow gorge, rock face, steel beams, steep walls, wikipedia

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