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Re-discovering hope

December 1, 2010 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Oops! I made the misstep of watching the news, not wise if you wish to maintain an upbeat attitude. Rather, it’s an excellent way to become discouraged.

Politicians, with soft spines and moral compasses no longer pointing north, have become wholly owned subsidiaries of Special Interests Inc. and Mega-Business Unlimited. “Establishing justice, insuring domestic tranquility, providing for the common defense, promoting the general welfare, and securing the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity,” has been crushed under the weight of partisan bickering and a landscape awash in uncountable dollars.

There is plenty of blame to share; as they say, “we get the government we deserve.” But since money has long tentacles, we seem — in my humble opinion — to be getting the government the upper crust deserves.

I am not a “class warrior.” I do not dislike nor inherently distrust the wealthy; truth be told, I would like to be so labeled. I also do not believe that money is the “root of all evil,” rather it simply allows you be more of who you already were. As illustration, if you’re a charitable, involved, dedicated person with an empty wallet and fate or hard work decrees you great prosperity, you become a charitable, involved, dedicated person with a lot of money; able to do much more. Unfortunately, if you were a jerk with but a few dollars who happens to receive a fortune; you become a jerk with a lot of coin, increasing your jerkness. That said, I cannot deny that — lately — it appears many well-off folks have an “I-got-mine,-the-heck-with-you” way of thinking.

It is distressing to think that the concept of helping “the least of us” has become quaint and passé.

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Filed Under: Beliefs, Holidays, Newspaper Column, Power of Attitude, Traditions Tagged With: bill gates, charity, holiday traditions, holidays, money is the root of all evil, special interests, sunday morning news, ted turner, thankfulness, warren buffett

Are you ashamed of asking for help?

November 20, 2010 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

This is a letter from someone asking for my help after feeling embarrassed about it. (Note the greater message and my comments at the end.)

Reaching out to others for my own needs is very new to me and I am very awkward at it.

In the past I have been the ‘fixer and care provider.’ When I wrote you I did a, “Wow I’m reaching out to someone who is basically a stranger and he might just think I’m nuts.” Then I convinced myself I was nuts for reaching out to you and the spin went from there….

I’ve been to the gym 4 times this week, eaten decently, done some good work in the Marianne Williamson book, and was feeling accomplished, and yesterday I found myself bombarded by critics and weight prejudice in the places I typically feel safe. Which started my own mental fight and internal critic rolling. So I guess I started tossing baby, bathwater, and rubber ducky. Hope this makes sense.

In reply:

It makes perfect sense; I do the same thing. However, one of the things I have recently learned is even powerful people have needs. We all need help periodically; it’s part of the human condition.

We are far more critical on ourselves than most people are on us. If we were to say out loud to children what we say internally, we’d all be locked up. Find some time to be positive. It can’t hurt.

Filed Under: Asking for help, Beliefs, mental health, Power of Attitude, Self Talk Tagged With: emotions, internal critic, letter, marianne williamson, shame, weight prejudice

We Relate to Feelings, not Words

October 1, 2010 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Rahm Emanuel is not known to be a softie. Quite the contrary, he’s known to be a hard charging bully at times.Today, he stepped down from this position as Barack Obama’s White House Chief of Staff to run for mayor for the city of Chicago. I watched President Obama heap praise on his long-time friend and then Emanuel took the platform. Rahm Emanuel farewell to Obama Of course, he thanked the president for the opportunities and he praised Obama’s leadership. However, what got to me was when he began speaking about his family, starting with his parents. The usual, tough-as-nails veneer quickly faded and his inner feelings emerged, surprisingly openly. He choked up and even started to cry.

I’m a political junkie; I breathe the stuff. I’ve followed him since he worked with Bill Clinton and I’ve never been a big fan of Mr. Emanuel. He and I would probably not get along too well. However, in those few moments, I found myself feeling surprisingly close to this man. I even teared up somewhat myself (of course, my wife would say I do that anyway).

It was amazing to me that the decade of mistrust and animosity I have felt towards this man could fade in an instant.

It’s NOT about the words

There’s an important reminder here. If you want to connect with people, if you need support, if you’d like to get more done; be real. Let the emotions out. People don’t relate to our words, they connect with our feelings. Yet, too often, we’re embarrassed or ashamed about how we feel.

I’m a speaker. I believe in the power of words; but the true power of communication comes from the emotions that reside underneath them.

Filed Under: Beliefs, Communicating, Current Events, Relationships, Video Tagged With: animosity, barack obama, bully, current events, emotions, inner feelings, News, politics, rahm emanuel, true power

A Lucky Man: What I Learned from Michael J. Fox

November 6, 2006 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

There is a fable whereby God gives each person the option to rid himself of his most pressing difficulty. Everyone places his or her problems in the center of a circle. In turn, each then inspects the travails and challenges of the others, and chooses what he or she would prefer. As the fable goes, everyone opts for his own problem. Human nature is to always consider oneself less fortunate than others – until presented with reality.

In a book he wrote not too long ago, Michael J. Fox considers himself to be a “lucky man.” When I watched him on a TV interview as he tried to contain uncontrollable tremors and twitches inflicted by Parkinson’s disease, I was astonished – and awed – to hear him describe himself as “fortunate.” He admits he would not have opted for this disease; yet as long as it is his path, he feels it is a gift because he’s able to help others. Many people from all around the world suffer and struggle with Parkinson’s disease on a daily basis. Knowing that a disability insurance instant quote can help provide them with financial help in the event of not being able to carry out their job, may give them a sense of motivation to battle the disease. For others, having someone like Michael J. Fox in the corner every step of the way can also be a huge benefit in their journey.

Shall we compare? Fox describes Parkinson’s as “a gift;” I complain when I have to say “no” to a second scoop of ice cream. Maybe rethinking my position is in order.

Since I was a young overweight lad, I cannot remember when I did not complain about having to watch what I eat. While other children gorged themselves on potato chips, soft drinks, and chocolate fudge bars, my mother filled me with non-fat milk, fruit, and grilled chicken.

As a small boy stomping his feet in the midst of a tantrum, I would rail against the wrongness of the universe. “It’s not fair!” I yelled. “Richard and Nancy are going to get ice cream. I want to go too!”

In those early years, I could not know the pain my mother felt as she was compelled to hold back her son from the experience of his peers so he could learn much-needed healthier habits. Lovingly, she would reply, “You’re right; it’s not fair. But Richard and Nancy don’t have to watch their weight. You need to eat more carefully than they do.”

I grew resentful over time: wounded by the loneliness felt only by the unattractive, angry over diets that promised but never delivered, insulted and beaten down by boorish comments poking fun of my size. Why did God condemn me?

Michael J. Fox – with Parkinson’s – considers his disease a gift. I have an outburst over having to eat low-fat cheese. I’m thinking I just might need to “get over myself.”

I “suffer” from a disease of abundance. While half the planet’s population goes without, I must cut back. I must count calories in a world one person out of two prays not to go to sleep hungry.

If we were to put my problem in the circle, I think I’d take it back.

Filed Under: Beliefs, Diet, Happiness, Newspaper Column, Overcoming Obstacles, Power of Attitude, Self Talk Tagged With: get over myself, get over yourself, loneliness, lucky man, michael j fox, parkinsons, problems, travails, tv actor

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