I learned in therapy this simple technique to help keep your relationship strong.
Take 10-20 minutes every day for “Talk Time.”
During that period, ask each other these questions:
- What did I do today that you liked?
- What did I do today that you would prefer I do not do again?
- Is there anything I can do tomorrow to help you out? (Then, make a commitment to get it done by a certain agreed-to date.)
Give each other a hug – and then go about your day.
Many people say 10-20 minutes is not enough. However, if they were to honestly look at their days, they’d realize that most people spend far less time than that with “quality time.” This will get you going. You can always add more.