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Someday, somewhere, somehow…

January 29, 2014 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

At this very moment, a frustrated, frightened middle-aged woman is standing on a scale in a state of disbelief.

Depressed Overweight Woman

She hadn’t dare climb upon it for years, afraid of the number she’d see — and terrified of what it would mean. Today however, after finding nothing in the closet that fits, the anxiety of not knowing overrode the faux safety of denial.

Her fears were realized.

As she continues to stare at the number between her toes, confidence is dwindling. Lost, she understands she needs to do something. She’s also not sure she can.

Today, a foreman will unexpectedly be put face-to-face with the unpleasant reality that he isn’t as young as he used to be.

Long ago, feeling uncomfortable in ever-tightening pants, he shifted from a belt to suspenders. After all, he didn’t need to buy larger trousers; this was a temporary situation. As a million times before, he’d drop those “few pounds” as soon as things “settled down.”

Funny thing, that; they didn’t, and his belly now is profound. Having not been witness to his toes in a blue moon, moving has become laborious, bending a chore, and breathing — well, it’s just not as easy as it used to be.

Before today’s calendar changes pages, in the midst of a frustrating conversation with a client, his shortness of breath will ramp up severely; he’ll begin sweating profusely, feel light-headed, and become unmistakably aware of an overwhelming pain in his arms and back.

The day will end not at all the way he planned. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Baby Boomers, Change, Group Support, Inspiration, Motivation, Newspaper Column, Think 1st, Weight Loss Tagged With: bad habits, change, diet, fear, heart healthy, Hope, lifestyle change, weight

3 Issues You’ll Deal With When a Non-Immediate Family Member Dies

October 4, 2013 by Featured Author Leave a Comment

DepressionYou weren’t close with Uncle Fred, seeing him only on the holidays or the occasional dinner at your parent’s house. Even though you knew about his heart condition, his death still came as a shock to you. Your natural response to grieve is understandably accompanied by the urge to do something constructive. Since Uncle Fred was a non-immediate family member, you won’t be expected to make any of the arrangements. Still, reaching out to offer help and support would be cathartic.

You would think that, after centuries of dealing with death, there would be a cut-and-dry way to go about it. Unfortunately, there isn’t. Everyone is different and grieves in different ways, and for some reason — even when it’s expected — it takes you off guard. Though you feel helpless and are trying to deal with your own grief, there are things you can do to ease the suffering around you. And that alone can have a therapeutic effect.

Explaining It to the Kids

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Filed Under: Baby Boomers, family, Group Support, Guest Author, Relationships Tagged With: death, family, grief, loss, sadness

Reach Out; Take a Hand

July 3, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Because this column has been running almost ten years, I’m taking a leap of faith and assuming not everyone started reading it day one. Therefore, especially with a title of, “Striving for Imprefection,” (sic) one might not easily comprehend why I write so often about weight and diet.

Born overweight and battling obesity through my early and teen years, I for the first time in my life, reached my correct weight when I lost about 100 pounds at age 17. However, I put it back on when I was in my twenties (sigh…), having to shed about 80 pounds, and thereby becoming a leader/facilitator for a major international weight loss company. In those days, I was a rarity; being male and “young.” Moreover, my primary meeting had a weekly attendance of over 100 people. To further cement my bona fides, I was chosen as one of twenty people in the entire U.S. and Canada to be a role model for the company when they celebrated their 20th anniversary in New York City in 1983. We were escorted to Broadway plays, received a complete “make over” (which made me look ridiculous), and I got to meet the founder of the company. (Oh yes, we were indeed treated to copious amounts of food at five-star restaurants.)

fat meDespite my “rock star” star status in weight loss circles, I stopped attending meetings due to a dispute I had with a supervisor.

To “teach her a lesson,” I regained about 70 pounds. Old feelings of humiliation and self-loathing re-manifested themselves, and yet I did everything I could to avoid returning. My back pained me 24/7. My marriage was a mess; my attitude was worse. People who know me today consider me “positive.” They would not have used that adjective then. I was forever unhappy.

Yet, I still refused to seek help, thinking the shame of returning was even worse than the nagging unhappiness and hurt that refused to leave.

On my 39th birthday, after everyone had gone to bed, I got down on my knees, bent over the garbage can, and ate the leftover birthday cake I had placed in the tin earlier that evening. Am I proud of this? Of course not. However, it is part of me and I’ve learned to release the shame I hold about poor choices. More importantly, it was the turning point that made me decide to seek help once again.

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Filed Under: Asking for help, Diet, Group Support, Newspaper Column, Power of Attitude, Relationships, Self Talk Tagged With: addiction, addiction recovery, asking for help, diet, getting help, role model, sadness, unhappiness, weight loss

Healthy Eating For Your Whole Life—Three Ways To Eat Right Forever

May 9, 2013 by MikeTremba

Eating-from-a-bucketYou’re financially stable, emotionally secure, fun-loving and bright.

So why can’t you get your diet in check?

You diet, then you diet more, a little more, and still more after that.

But the weight comes back, along with the lethargy and discouragement. What’s the catch?

Don’t feel bad. The simple fact is that dieting doesn’t work. Like a Band-Aid on a broken leg, it’s an ineffectual fix for, even a back-step from, getting the larger issue—lack of healthy foods in your diet— in line.

Various non-gimmicky weight-loss plans such as The Diet Solution reviews provide a great deal of insight into the fact that eating well isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Training your mind and body to adhere to a healthy diet for your whole life requires vigilance, education and determination.

It doesn’t matter if you’re eighteen or eighty, diabetic, a dancer, or downright out of shape— there are a few ingredients to well-balanced, life-long eating habits that anyone can benefit from.

Cut the crud

If you eat well ninety percent of the time, it doesn’t mean your eating habits are ninety percent healthy; It actually means your eating habits zero percent healthy.

The math might not seem to add up, but trust me, it does.

Broiled fish and kale are wonderful for your body, but indulging in a Big Mac once a month is enough of a back-step to offset two weeks’ of diligent dieting. By no means should you cut the pleasure out of your eating habits; you just need to find ways to slice the nasty stuff out and replace it with just-as-tasty, ten-times-healthier alternatives.

Homemade vinaigrette dressing on a bun-less turkey burger with cheese will satiate your burger craving just as well as a Big Mac without packing preservatives, unhealthy chemicals and more sodium than you need in half a year into a single, wax-paper-wrapped serving.

Eat less, eat often

Your metabolism is the metronome determines the rate at which energy is fed to your body, using the stores of nutrients from the foods you ingest and releasing them into your cells at a rate it deems appropriate based on your average output.

The more efficient your metabolism, the less you need to eat to keep yourself energized. However in order to get your metabolism in the best shape of its life, you’ll need to eat more frequently, and you’ll need to eat better.

Feeding yourself small portions four-to-six times a day actually helps curb over-eating, dial back on calorie intake, and weed junk food cravings out of your life.

Foods high in healthy fiber like veggies and dip, or a store of fresh fruits and veggies, or nuts are excellent fillers between slightly larger meals, and limiting breakfast, lunch and dinner to small portions of nutrient-rich foods—like a cut of salmon or a fresh salad—well help to keep your energy up throughout the day.

Make it a group effort

It’s never too early or too late to start taking your health into your own hands. It’s also not easy to completely upturn your eating habits and make a commitment to sticking it out for the rest of your life is a formidable commitment.

Going it alone is never a good idea when you’re getting your diet into shape. Friends, family, or your significant other need to be in for the long haul with you.

That’s why it needs to be a commitment made by more than just you. Instead, you need a support system.

Do more than promising to eat better; make a plan and enforce it. Have weekly family meetings where you hash our meal plans for the week and share ideas for healthy, yummy snacks. Or, start a food blogging community with your closest friends and share success stories, great recipes and motivation through the airwaves.

However you go about it, go at it with a solid foundation of support. If you or anyone close to you has ever quit smoking, it’s the same principle; you’re infinitely less likely to lapse back into your unhealthy ways if there’re hands behind you to catch you when you fall.

About the author: Dr. Mike Tremba, once very overweight, stressed, and unhealthy, has learned uncommon tips to help him get over his obstacles to good health.  He loves sharing with others, small, common-sense ways to live healthy for a lifetime.  His commentary in The Truth About Abs Review is one way he gets to share his passion.  Dr. Mike lives in southern Alabama with his beautiful wife, Shari.

Filed Under: Diet, Group Support, Guest Author Tagged With: diet tips, dieting, eating habits, healthier eating, healthy foods

Practical, Simple Advice to Feel Better Quickly

January 2, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus

Like so many thoroughbreds exploding onto the track at Churchill Downs, the gates have burst wide and the race to resolutions has begun. “Here we go again!” was first out but is already off the pace. “This Time It’ll Be Different” is fading quickly, but, the across the board favorite “Throw in the Towel” is once again moving up rapidly on the inside.

Alas, ‘tis January, and we have entered the silly season.

Barely two weeks ago, it was difficult to find a parking space at the mall — but no longer. Rather, it’s simpler than locating one at the health club. TV ads no longer tempt with sugary visions of chocolaty treats, opting to substitute video of hard-bodied men and bikini-clad women sweating to the latest exercise DVD available for three easy payments of $19.95. Interviews with specialists pontificating on the best value in gym memberships have supplanted chefs who provided recipes for holiday goodies. Store windows are now chock-a-block bloated with displays of diet pills, quick smoking solutions, and self-help books.

exercise motivationIf you, like me, grow weary at this annual festival of advice; fret not, as it’ll be as long gone as last year’s chocolate Hanukkah gelt come Valentine’s Day. My question is, since it never works, “Why do we keep doing it?”

Oh sure, we’re a pretty self-critical bunch; never totally content with our lot in life. Lose a few pounds, get fit, spend more time with the family, work less, earn more, tuck this, grow that… it’s a never-ending catalog of imperfections. Yet, we can work on those any time. Why don’t we? Instead, every January, on the heels of two months of hedonistic over-indulgence, we stop for a moment to take self-inventory. After getting past the depression that follows such an unhappy assessment, we courageously commit to change every single solitary individual behavior that makes us feel sad or look bad. Within weeks — sometimes merely days — we’re exhausted by too much change in too short of a time, gorge on Valentine’s candy, and give up, proclaiming, “There’s always next year.”

Ready to break the cycle? It’s much simpler than expected. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Change, Diet, Exercise, Group Support, Newspaper Column, Overcoming Obstacles, Weight Loss Tagged With: dieting, gym memberships, health club, new year's resolutions, resolutions, self help books, weight loss

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