This is a fun video about what a fifth grader wants to know about her future self.
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Can Self-Sabotage Drive You to Personal Growth
Who could possibly imagine that a thing like self-sabotage can actually drive you to personal growth?
Moreover, addiction to drugs (believed to be a kind of self sabotage) can also help in self expression and personal growth. You will have your eyebrows raised at that. Don’t get me wrong, I am not promoting narcotics. It’s just a scientifically proven fact that some drugs turn on the switch to imagination.
There was this woman who became addicted to drugs because it gave her the feeling of fulfillment and satisfaction. Her doctors tried to explore the reasons behind the drawing force and they found that she was alone and felt bored most of the times. This feeling turned her more anxious and she dreaded the pressure in her job. She once had a chance to go on a vacation with her friends where she had a great time.
There was no pressure and no worry in the world while she was on this vacation. By the end of the vacation, she started to feel low again so she took the drug to get that timeless experience once again where she had no responsibilities and can let her imagination fly free. Nevertheless, drugs including sleeping pills will always have some side-effects. Knowing that, she took the drug because that imaginative feeling of being free will always return.
You’re Going to Pay For it Either Way
Since change only comes about as a result of fear, force, or pain; we’ll do what we can to deny we need to change as long as possible
— or at least until we’ve been psychically knocked upside the head long enough and can no longer disagree that things aren’t going as planned.
Should you wish to question that premise that change only comes about due to an excessive amount of yicky-ness, can we first agree that no one, not one person, wakes up, conducts a self-inventory, and exclaims, “Wow! Things are perfect! Let me see how I can muck them up”?
The unfortunate counter-reality is we decide to modify our lives only when two conditions are met:
- Life is not performing anywhere optimal level — and
- We can no longer fool ourselves into believing, should we follow the present course, it will change anytime soon
Only once we are defeated, will we begin the process.
It’s sad, but it’s true.
Your Life is Yours to Run (or Not)
Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” As part of that series, one of the things we went over were the “10 Commandments of Changing Habits.” This is one of those “commandments.”
Thy Life is Thine Own Creation
You set up your life to get what you are; it is not a fluke of nature.
It took work and planning, possibly unintentionally, but you built it. If it no longer serves you, you have to undo it.
However, since you built it – you can unbuild it.
However, you built it slowly, day by day, step by step.
Be patient while you rearrange it. It will take time.
You Are Complete As You Are
Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.” As part of that series, one of the things we went over were the “10 Commandments of Changing Habits.” This is one of those “commandments.”
Thou Art Complete From the Beginning
You are fine just the way you are. You are entitled to be happy even if you have bad habits.
If you are changing your habits to be a “better person,” there’s no need.