“Stuck” does not just happen.
There’s a reason.
- If you keep taking off and putting on the same few pounds no matter what you do, there’s a reason.
- If you keep “trying” to change a habit and it never seems to work, there’s a reason.
- If you’re always making promises to yourself but you’re not keeping them, there’s a reason.
If you want to understand the reason, it’s important to know your “WHY NOTs.”
We usually know why we want to change our habits (health, happiness, success) but we rarely pay attention to why we DO NOT, referred to as our “WHY NOTs.”
Understanding your WHY NOTs will move you forward.
As examples, you might NOT want to change a habit because:
- It prevents me from getting bored
- It helps me feel part of my family
- It comforts me when I’m stressed
- It feels good when I do it
Understanding why you DO NOT WANT to change tells you the benefits of your “bad” habit.
Accept that you were doing the best you knew how to when you started your habit. Understand what you receive from it. Then, as you would with a relationship that is no longer healthy, wish it well, grieve its passing, and…