A compliment denied is punishment self-inflicted.”
We are very quick to beat ourselves up – and incredibly slow to congratulate ourselves. We also tend to dismiss it when others do, by showing off our “big but.” You know…
A friend says, “Wow! You look like you’ve lost a whole lot of weight! You look great!”
We reply, “Yeah, but, I’ve got so far to go.”
Or, someone says, “You are a great mom! I can’t believe how well you take care of your children.”
And again, “Yeah, but, you should have seen me last week. I was like a banshee.”
There is a tremendous difference between being proud of what we do and being conceited. Each time we deny a compliment — or beat ourselves up over a mistake – we avoid the opportunity to feel good. That engages our habit (whether that be eating, drinking, smoking, stress…) and we end up feeling worse, furthering the drive to engage in the habit.
Remember, if guilt & shame were motivational, we’d all be happier, healthier, and more successful.
Enjoy a compliment this week – and pass one on.
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