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Surprise! Being Fit = More Opportunity; Here’s Why

February 14, 2013 by MikeTremba Leave a Comment

A healthy body is the gateway to a sharp mind, and a sharp mind is the key factor to landing and excelling at the job of your dreams.

Now, going to the gym twice a week won’t immediately merit a raise at the office, but getting your health on track will improve your quality of life. People who lead happy lives are proven to succeed more in their professional endeavors. Here’s why.

How you carry yourself = how people view you

And I don’t just mean you’ll get more phone numbers at the bar on Friday night.

It’s a known fact that a rocking body will give you more luck with the opposite sex. But more importantly, it will make you think more highly of yourself. This is absolutely key in gaining the respect of others. Confident people are statistically more likely to request a raise at work, apply for advancement opportunities as they arise, or be offered promotions by their superiors.

But being confident means creating the version of yourself about whom you can feel confident.

How do you do that? [Read more…]

Confidence’s On-Off Switch

January 30, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

How would your life be different if you were absolutely, positively confident in what you could accomplish?

Which plans now on the shelf would you pull down, dust off, and put in motion? Would you reach out to those you’ve admired from afar and expand your circle of influence? Would you therefore finally quit that dead-end job and start your own business, knowing with absolute conviction that you would be successful?

Would you graciously bid adieu to no-longer supportive relationships, guaranteed you would be okay on your own?

Would self-assurance propel you back to school, secure in the knowledge that yes, you really could study primates in the outback, or be a healer among the third world?

If the reflection in your mirror felt buoyant about your appearance, what would you attempt? Would you learn to dance or sing, focused more on the joy of self-expression rather than the judgmental concerns about what others might think?

Bottom line, you would be happier and more successful.

Of course, absolute confidence is absolutely unattainable. Doubt, its antithesis; forever lurks like Gollum in our dark spaces. [Read more…]

Knocking off Those Things Called “Problems”

January 29, 2013 by Scott "Q" Marcus Leave a Comment

Most of us who are leading worry-free happy lives have our own problems which we haven’t considered discussing with anyone. Instead, most people choose to pretend as if nothing is wrong and learn to live with the problems. Though problems are a part of our lives, it certainly doesn’t mean that we let them rule our lives forever. One day or the other, you’ll have to stand up and say – Problem, I don’t want you in my life.

Of course, we have been fighting troubles ever since we were born. Issues with friends, parents, girl friends, boyfriends, spouses, and children – the list goes on. Apart from these, the inner conflicts within ourselves that outline our feelings such as low self-esteem, low confidence, loss of faith, inferiority complex, nervousness – these keep adding to our already existing problems.

Bad news is that problems come in different shapes and sizes and colors and feelings and situations. Good news is that ALL problems can be solved.

Now breathe a sigh of relief and read on to know how to solve your problems.

Talk, it really helps

What most of us think is that our problem can be understood only by us and that no amount of talking is going to help. Know this – when you talk about your problem to a person, don’t expect that person to understand. Instead, when you talk about it, you are releasing the negative energies that’s been mounting within you. Talking helps you move on and let go.

Write your problems

Having a journal or a personal diary can also be of huge help if you don’t want a real person to talk with. When you write down your problems, you are venting out all the frustration and tension from your system. You can try flushing away the paper in which you wrote your problems. By doing this, imagine yourself flushing away the problems from your life.

Relax and think

More often than not, when problems mount, we forget thinking. Instead, we choose to panic and stay glum. Teach yourself to relax in situations that demand your focused attention. When you relax, the answers become more clear and obvious.

Don’t lose faith and hope

No matter what you lose in life; do not lose faith and hope. Even if you lose all your money, family, friends and career, you should still have faith. You say that sounds crazy. How can a person still have faith after losing everything? That’s the magical part. With faith and hope, you can rebuild everything that you lose.

Your problems are not the worst

No matter what problem you get in life, there are another one million people whose problems are huger than yours. Tell yourself – when they can deal with them, why can’t I? Your problems might just seem big and worse, but in reality they can be removed.

Go about and solve your problems because every problem, however big or small, always has a solution.

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