It is OK to disagree.

Sometimes, for our  health (mental or physical), or for the health of others, we actually must disagree with someone.

It’s not a problem to disagree, it’s HOW we disagree that matters.

A few quick suggestions:

• Begin your statements with “I feel…” rather than “you are…”
• Understand your intention is to state your view, not to put down the other person’s view
• Listen to what he or she said
• Realize the two of you might not agree no matter what

If we look at disagreements as an opportunity to enhance a relationship rather than a test of wills, the anxiety level will be lowered, the process will be smoother, and we just might get what we want.