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Now You Can Overcome Imposter Syndrome

August 16, 2013 by Featured Author Leave a Comment

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A few years ago, everyone in my department at work, more than 50 people, took the same written test. I scored higher than anyone. In fact, I had the highest score in the five years that the test had been administered. But instead of feeling proud when my boss told me my results, I felt ashamed. I felt like an imposter.

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Filed Under: Asking for help, Guest Author, mental health Tagged With: imposter, self improvement, sense of self

The Power of Belief Change

August 30, 2011 by Featured Author

Imagine you’re in a video store.

In the drama section you discover a film depicting an incident from your childhood that was very embarrassing at the time it occurred. On the cover of the DVD is an old picture of your family. You can practically hear the mocking taunts of your siblings and feel the sting of Dad’s scolding. It happened so long ago, though, that you’ve learned to look back and laugh. That DVD can go back on the shelf, filed more accurately in the classic comedy section, because you’ve changed your belief about the meaning of that experience.

Beliefs are not inherently true – they’re just thoughts we think a lot. Over time, we’ve all revised some belief or other. Here are some common examples:

  • outgrowing childhood myths, like The Tooth Fairy or Santa Claus
  • learning from experience, such as burning a finger on a stove that may not look hot but was turned off only a moment ago
  • updating a sense of self from passing a milestone, as when a student graduates into an alumnus
  • exceeding some perceived limitation, often as a new skill is tested or a new role is assumed

Your brain is organized similarly to the movie store filing system, with your senses (what you see, hear, feel, smell and taste) determining how you store and access the information. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the study of how the brain codes these sensory experiences to create a map of your personal and unique perception of reality. Adjusting the map rewires neural pathways, often quickly resulting in profound shifts in feeling and behavior, as well as beliefs about what is true or possible.

NLP is commonly used for rapid relief from phobias, trauma, anxiety, addiction and other issues where behavior or bodily performance is contrary to conscious desire or intention. And because NLP is based on the idea of modeling (if one person can learn to do something, then anyone can learn to do it), it is also effective for accelerating learning, improving memory, and cultivating excellence in any field.

Belief change underlies the process of quickly updating one’s mental filing system. Sometimes beliefs don’t evolve so easily or automatically, creating a sense of stuckness. That’s where a trained NLP practitioner can be useful to facilitate a variety of belief change techniques that may reframe the meaning of an experience, anchor more empowering feelings to familiar thoughts, or change the nature of the thoughts that are triggered under recurring circumstances.

Practice Exercise #1: Imagine sitting in the fourth row of an empty movie theater. On the screen you are watching yourself handle a difficult situation. Allow your consciousness to float out of your body and up to the projector booth. From there you can both observe yourself as you sit watching the film, and you can make edits to the movie being shown. Revise the film until you are watching yourself handle the situation in the most desirable way. Float out of the booth and into the scene so you can both be in the experience of handling it perfectly and see what that looks like on the screen. When it looks and feels just right, allow the version of you seated in the fourth row to merge with the on screen version and run through the scene from beginning to end a few more times. Exit the theater and notice what is different when you think of dealing with the situation for real.

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Filed Under: Change, Guest Author, Motivation, Power of Attitude, Productivity, Self Talk Tagged With: attitude, bad habits, change, conscious desire, emotions, feelings, learning from experience, linguistic programming, neural pathways, nlp, sense of self, sensory experiences

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