Overcompensating for what my parents said to me will not change what they said.
It may seem “silly” but many of our behaviors started when we were children. Our parents – who were doing the best they knew how to do – passed along what they had learned from their parents, who passed along what they learned, who passed along what they learned…
If what we learned as children is still helpful to us now, it makes sense to continue to believe it. However, if the result is painful, it’s time to release it and move on.
However, do it with grace and compassion. Blame will not help.