“Should” is the word used by the invisible committee of “THEY” to run your life.
“I should be thinner.”“I should be a better parent.”“I should have thought of that before.”
Getting Past What Holds You Back with Baby Boomer Weight Loss Expert Scott 'Q' Marcus
“I should be thinner.”“I should be a better parent.”“I should have thought of that before.”
In this five minute video, Scott “Q” Marcus provides practical steps to get organized and to set effective goals.
Attempting to be perfect – in effect – trying to “do it all” is not only a barrier to actually getting things done, in many ways, it’s an excuse we use to avoid doing them.
After all, if you get up in the morning and are so overwhelmed with everything you have to accomplish, isn’t your first thought to pull the blankets back over your head and “wait until tomorrow?”
Beyond that, if we KNOW that our definition of success is to “get it all done” and we KNOW that objective is impossible, why would we even begin to move forward? The result of our “failure” is that we’ll get to feel bad in the end. Therefore, since we’re going to feel bad anyway, we might as well not go through the effort in the first place.
Set your goal to “do more,” not “do it all.” Find small measures of success and continue forward.
Everything seems crazy these days.
That’s causing us to feel overwhelmed, overloaded, and stressed out; the perfect combination to get us into disagreements with the people we care about and those with whom we work.
Should you find yourself in that most unhappy state, it’s important to remember that the main thing is to get resolution, not to “one up” the other. (After all, how well do you react when someone tries to “one up” you?”)
Improving oneself is not difficult. It might be uncomfortable. It might be slow; but difficult? Not so much. Figure out what you want to change; figure out a way to do it, move in that direction, correct as necessary.
Our problem is we make it too complicated. Some of the reasons we do that include:
In reality, the simpler we make it, the more likely we will achieve it. We have built our lives over years with patterns and habits to fill our days. It’s as if we have built a brick fortress around us. If we try and make too many changes, we have to knock out huge sections of the fortress; we won’t do that. If we can just rearrange a few bricks, we’re more likely to fit that in (read related post here).