It is OK to disagree.
Sometimes, for our health (mental or physical), or for the health of others, we actually must disagree with someone.
It’s not a problem to disagree, it’s HOW we disagree that matters.
A few quick suggestions:
- Begin your statements with “I feel…” rather than “you are…”
- Understand your intention is to state your view, not to put down the other person’s view
- Listen to what he or she said
- Realize the two of you might not agree no matter what
If we look at disagreements as an opportunity to enhance a relationship rather than a test of wills, the anxiety level will be lowered, the process will be smoother, and we just might get what we want.
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