Rarely – if at all – does anyone WANT to change. The results of the change are what actually motivate us. Keep your focus on those.
Rarely – if at all – does anyone WANT to change. The results of the change are what actually motivate us. Keep your focus on those.
Our minds listen “faster” than people can speak. Therefore, especially when we’re busy, we sometimes don’t take the time so slow down and really listen to what others are telling us. We respond to what we think they’re saying, not necessarily what they are really saying.
It’s almost always frustrating when we compare where we are to where we want to go. It’s better to compare where you are to where you started. That way, you’ll see the progress.
Sometimes, we hang on to “bad feelings” because we think we are punishing someone for what he or she did. The reality is that they are unaware of it and it doesn’t affect them in the slightest. Actually, it holds us back and hurts us.
If you’re having trouble getting on the same page with someone else, it’s important to remember that the only person you control is yourself. Obviously, what you’re doing now is not getting you what you want (unless it’s a disagreement). You might as well try something else.
The problems with New Year’s resolutions are that most people aren’t really committed to them but feel they “should” make them because everyone else is; or they are committed to them but they make them too large and unwieldy.
If you enter into your goal believing you can – and it doesn’t happen – at least you got to enjoy the ride for awhile. And during that time, you were invigorated, happy, and energized. Those emotions make you more aware, which make you open to new ideas, which allow you to try what you might not have tried if you thought all would come apart.
When stressed, take a deep breath; and remind yourself how lucky you are, it’ll change your mood.
Perfection is an impossible goal. Attempting to be perfect – in effect – trying to “do it all” is not only a barrier to actually getting things done, in many ways, it’s an excuse we use to avoid doing them.
If you’re feeling like your treading water, the problem is most likely that you’re trying to do too much; rather than not enough. Slow yourself down. Ask yourself, “What ONE thing will I do RIGHT NOW that I will complete?” Then, complete it BEFORE you move on to anything else.
Take time to notice “perfect” moments in life. How often we do let them slip by unnoticed? When was the last time you lingered over a brilliant sunset, or stopped to watch children play, or smelled the air after a first rain, or put your day on hold long enough to make a baby giggle? [...]
If you change what you look for (observations), you will change your beliefs. If you change your beliefs, you will change your attitude. If you change your attitude, you will change how you react to the world (and therefore how it reacts to you).
People who do not achieve their goals “freak out” when things don’t go the way they want. They look at it as failure and the end of the road. The immediately follow up thought to that is, “As long as it didn’t work, why bother to keep trying?” They quit. Successful people look at sebacks as “feedback” and figure out a new way around it.