Don’t Expect Gurantees of Success

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  As part of that series, one of the things we went over were the “10 Commandments of Changing Habits.” This is one of those “commandments.”

Expect not guarantees of success.

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Setting goals does not guarantee you will get to have the results you want.

However, NOT setting them does guarantee that you will stay where you are.

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Too Bad We Need Support, huh?

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five. This is the last one of the five.

#5: Get support

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Can we be really honest?

If you could achieve your goals on your own, you would have already done so, right? As they say, “Nothing changes if nothing changes,” and if you continue to try and muscle your way through it, you’re actually holding yourself back.

It’s important to remember that each of us is at times a teacher and other times a student. In some areas we show others the way forward. In others, we must be guided.

There is no shame in learning – and there is great courage in asking for help.

Reach out; there will always be a hand ready when you need it. (You’ll repay the favor later.)

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Close the Back Door

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.

#4: Close the Back Door.

Табличка с надписью CLOSED висит на дверной ручке с шипамиDon’t leave yourself an escape route.

Make it as easy as possible to move forward and as difficult as possible to stop. Clean your environment of triggers and replace it with support.

Examples:

> If your goal is to lose weight, put your scale, measuring cups, and journal right in plain view.  Get rid of “red light foods.” As soon as you lose a size, get rid of your old clothes. Keeping them “just in case…” usually turns out to be “it just so happened…”

> If you’re goal is to walk more, put your walking shoes right in front of the door. Wear your pedometer wherever you go. Better yet, get a second pair and keep them in the where you can see them. Look for opportunities to walk.

Too often, because we mistakenly believe we “failed” before, we keep our goals secret.

That’s a mistake.

One of the best ways to close the back door is to tell anyone who cares about you what you’re doing and how they can help. If you decide to stop moving forward, that’s your option, but after closing the back door, it becomes a very conscious decision and you have to “own it,” rather than believing you were a victim and it “just happened.”

Remember: Don’t sneak into success; leap loudly with as much noise as you can make.

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Embrace the Rough Patches

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.

#3: Embrace the Rough Patches.

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Just because the road has bumps doesn’t mean it’s not the correct road.

Difficult times don’t throw us off; it’s mistakenly believing that we wouldn’t have difficult times that throws us for a loop.

If we think it’s a straight shot from here to there, when we do hit a barrier we think, “It’s all over! I’ve lost my mojo.”

Even the best relationships cause some pain. However, we don’t dump our partner just because we don’t see eye-to-eye. We work through it. Expect that there will be difficult times – and expect you’ll work through it.

Since 80% of setbacks are caused by the same couple of issues repeated over and over and over again, a rough patch – if handled correctly – gives us an opportunity to finally get past a long-term barrier we’ve had that’s consistently held us back, probably causing relapses.

If we handle it well, we’ll NEVER have to face it again.

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Take Ridiculously Tiny Steps

Note: We recently launched of a seminar series, “Five Things You Must Know To Make Your Life Better.”  Each week we’re taking a quick look at each of the five.

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#2: Take Ridiculously Tiny Steps.


Small steps done regularly will always generate better results than large steps done intermittently.

In other words, it’s better to walk a block and really do it than to swear you’ll run a mile and never get around to it.

Avoid saying “I will try” or referring to your lapses in the third person (such as “the weight is just not coming off.”) If after saying, “I will…” you’re not sure you can or you really will, that step is probably too large.

Make it small enough so that you have no excuse to not do it.

If your inner critic is telling you’re not doing enough, you’re probably on track.

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