Nobody makes anybody feel anything. We learn to react to events by feeling certain ways. We can learn to react differently if we want to.

If we really want to have closer relationships and we want to get more from those with whom we associate, we have to do 4 simple steps.

Communication is key in any successful partnership, but a lot of us misinterpret what good communication really is. Of course it’s important that you and your partner talk often, even when you’re not together. However, it’s what you talk about that can get you in trouble.

Look at others, especially those who have wronged you, with compassion first.

People with “Badittude” are better about ruining your attitude than you are about correcting theirs.

When a freight train attitude is coming at you, get out of the way!

The way in which we construct what we say is essential. Tying oneself into a verbal and linguistic Gordian knot to avoid taking responsibility for what is truly meant so dilutes the message that the recipient is unsure what was being said from the get go. Hiding behind “everyone else” or “what others say” is — frankly — just plain cowardly.

Listening well is an undervalued skill. Learn these simple techniques and watch how many fewer conflicts you get into and how much happier you are.

Look for the way for all parties to get as much as possible, rather than as a win-lose proposition, and the pain of conflict will be greatly reduced – sometimes even eliminated.

I am strong enough to change. I admit my errors.

Stress is the response your body makes to outside anxieties and stimuli that may seem out of your control. Most stress is normal and necessary to our overall physical and mental health. “Good” stress allows us to become protectors of those around us in dangerous situations and triggers a lifesaving “flight or fight” response. When does stress cross the line and become harmful?

It’s impossible to go through life without experiencing negativity. A cheating spouse, a horrible boss, a conniving friend or family member; the list is endless, and we’ve all had at least one negative experience in our lives. It’s important, however, that we overcome those negative people and experiences so that we can learn, move on, and live.

Our minds listen “faster” than people can speak. Therefore, especially when we’re busy, we sometimes don’t take the time so slow down and really listen to what others are telling us. We respond to what we think they’re saying, not necessarily what they are really saying.