There are Always More Options

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“The highest form of intelligence is the ability to see options.”

Just like you, I’m always looking to improve myself.

So, I attended a three day conference to help me enhance my career. One of the speakers, Jeff Walker, said the comment I referenced above.

It really stood out.

I don’t know whether it’s because it’s a new year and we find ourselves faced with options or whether it’s because it’s just so honestly, simply, true. It really doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that we are not victims of “the way it has always been.”

We have the option to change at any time. And if what we pick doesn’t work, we have the option to change again (or the option to redefine what we’re looking at).

Alternatives are endless, constant, and available.

Choose your option. Repeat until happy.

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How to Get Whatever You Want

Sigh… if only everything we wanted just – poof! – materialized.

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Rather, anything we desire comes to us only through a very specific process – if it arrives at all. It matters not whether it’s trivial, mundane, or life altering. There is an unalterable four-step progression. More importantly, that entire sequence moves forward based entirely on the words we use in our heads.

Step one: I realize I want something.

Many times, we mistakenly say, “need;” but in actuality, it’s “want.” After all, if we were really motivated to go after what we needed, we’d all be healthy and fit with great attitudes and perfect relationships, wouldn’t we? We take action – or we don’t, because we want to – or don’t, NOT because we need to.

Let’s use a specific example: The holidays are nigh and I know I will see family. Neither wanting snide comments nor condescending sneers, I decide to drop a few pounds. To my previous point, I’ve needed to lose weight for some time, but until I wanted to, I was not motivated. Now, having entered this “acceptance stage,” I acknowledge that not only do I need to – but also I actually want the results that will come from it.

I am in motion.

Upon acceptance, the search for validation that it can or cannot be achieved commences.

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Believe in the Best

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Believe that everything happens for the best.

You have two choices in what you believe about what happens:

  1. You can believe that everything happens by chance; randomly. We are just leaves in the wind.
  2. You can believe that everything happens for a reason.

There is no right nor wrong choice.

However, if you choose to believe that everything happens for a reason; you might as well believe it happens for a good one.

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How to be Happier – Quickly

Where you are in life is basically the result of the behaviors and choices you have chosen to do and take so far.

Those choices are based in large part on how you viewed the world at the time, which is what we call “attitude.”

Your attitude is “the complex interaction between feelings and beliefs that affect how you view the world – and therefore how you react to it.”  Therefore, your attitude is made up out of feelings and your beliefs, which stem from your thoughts.

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So, to make your life happier, take a moment to make your next thought happier.

Repeat whenever possible.

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