Monday Motivational Memo: Overcoming Resistance to Change
Rarely – if at all – does anyone WANT to change.
The results of the change are what actually motivate us.
Keep your focus on those.
“Logically,” we usually know what to do to improve our health and our lives. We just don’t do it.
Why?
Usually, it’s because we’re focusing on the mental work it takes. That seems taxing and overwhelming and not worth the effort. Therefore, we quit.
The key is to focus on the benefits you will receive by doing the work. For example, don’t focus on how hard it is to stick to your diet; picture how you’ll feel in one hour when you’ve resisted the habit.
In effect, focus on where you will be from your efforts, not what it’s taking to achieve them.
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Motivational Monday Memo: Slow Down and Listen
To get answers, you have to ask questions.
To hear the answers, you have to listen.
Our minds listen “faster” than people can speak.
Therefore, especially when we’re busy, we sometimes don’t take the time so slow down and really listen to what others are telling us. We respond to what we think they’re saying, not necessarily what they are really saying.
Take just a few seconds to “slow down your listening speed,” especially when the conversation is important. You’ll hear what you normally don’t, therefore, you will diminish the possibility of conflict. You will also actually be more productive because you will have fewer repeat conversations.
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Monday Motivational Memo: Focus on Success
Focus on how far you’ve come, not how far you have to go.
But keep moving forward.
It’s almost always frustrating when we compare where we are to where we want to go. It’s better to compare where you are to where you started. That way, you’ll see the progress.
Even if it’s not much, it’s validation that you’re on your way and that you’re moving forward.
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Forgiveness is More Powerful than Condemnation – Monday Motivational Memo
To forgive is more powerful than to condemn.
Sometimes, we hang on to “bad feelings” because we think we are punishing someone for what he or she did. The reality is that they are unaware of it and it doesn’t affect them in the slightest. Actually, it holds us back and hurts us.
To forgive someone does not mean you condone the behaviors; it’s merely an emotional release of attachment to a negative feeling.
Who do you need to forgive today?
Read more about forgiveness here.
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Control Issues Anyone? The Monday Motivational Memo
You cannot control anybody but yourself.
If you try, you’ll drive both of you crazy.
If you’re having trouble getting on the same page with someone else, it’s important to remember that the only person you control in the situation is yourself.
Even if the other person is “wrong,” (almost always a questionable assumption) telling him that usually will not be as effective as looking inside yourself and seeing what you can do differently. Then, slow yourself down, take a deep breath. And move forward with your new plan.
Obviously, what you’re doing now is not getting you what you want (unless it’s a disagreement). You might as well try something else.
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Monday Motivational Memo: Setting Realistic Goals & Resolutions
Each goal is made up of an unlimited number of smaller goals.
The problems with New Year’s resolutions are that most people aren’t really committed to them but feel they “should” make them because everyone else is; or they are committed to them but they make them too large and unwieldy.
If you’d like to make some changes for the new year:
1. Make sure it’s something YOU WANT or NEED to change, and not something you feel you SHOULD change
2. Realize there will be some discomfort in the process – but you will be able to hande it. (After all, if there’s no discomfort, nothing is changing.)
3. Make the end goal the result of a series of very small steps rather than one large one. (In other words, it’s not about losing 25 pounds this year, it’s about losing 2 pounds a month.)
Possibly, the most important; focus on the benefits you’ll receive from the change, not the work it will take.
They’re both true, but one will move you forward and one will frustrate you.
By the way, you can resolve to change any time you want. It doesn’t have to be on January 1. (Just sayin’…)
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Monday Motivational Memo – Daring to Believe You CAN
When was the last time you dared yourself to believe you actually COULD?
Why are we so quick to find the reasons why something will NOT work out, or why we are incapable or unworthy of the success of our endeavors? What could possibly go wrong by believing things could actually go the way you want them to go?
Some people will tell you, “Set your sights low so you won’t be disappointed.”
But, can we be honest?
Even if you do that – and it doesn’t happen – aren’t you STILL disappointed? Of course you are. Setting you sights low just lowers expectations, it does nothing to alleviate the pain of failure.
Yet – if you enter into your goal believing you can – and it doesn’t happen – at least you got to enjoy the ride for awhile. And during that time, you were invigorated, happy, and energized. Those emotions make you more aware, which make you open to new ideas, which allow you to try what you might not have tried if you thought all would come apart.
So, in reality, believing you could might actually be a necessary first step in getting what you want.
Try believing it WILL happen more often – see if you’re right.
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Monday Motivational Memo: Being Grateful to Disarm Anger
It is impossible to be angry or upset when you’re grateful.
It’s hard to stay balanced when you’re super busy. And this time of year is certainly one for “super-busy-ness.” With so little time for oneself, we sometimes get short-tempered and stressed. That’s no fun for anyone.
When that happens – and it will – slow yourself down, take a deep breath; and remind yourself how lucky you are. If you’re busy, it’s because you have things to do and you have the ability to do them. Many people are all alone or do not have the abilities (either physical or mental) to take care of things the way you do. (This doesn’t mean you have to turn into a “Pollyanna” but it sure can’t hurt to feel a little better, can it?)
Be grateful; it’ll change your mood.
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Overcome Procrastination by Overcoming Perfectionism
Strive to get better – not perfect.
Perfection is an impossible goal.
Attempting to be perfect – in effect – trying to “do it all” is not only a barrier to actually getting things done, in many ways, it’s an excuse we use to avoid doing them.
After all, if you get up in the morning and are so overwhelmed with everything you have to accomplish, isn’t your first thought to pull the blankets back over your head and “wait until tomorrow?”
Beyond that, if we KNOW that our definition of success is to “get it all done” and we KNOW that objective is impossible, why would we even begin to move forward? The result of our “failure” is that we’ll get to feel bad in the end. Therefore, since we’re going to feel bad anyway, we might as well not go through the effort in the first place.
Set your goal to “do more,” not “do it all.” Find small measures of success and continue forward.
Forget perfectionism; it’s actually hurting you.
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Staying Focused: Keeping the Main Thing the Main Thing
Keep the main thing the main thing.
Sometimes, it’s hard to stay focused. We have so much to do, so many things to accomplish. That’s especially true during the holidays. By trying to do too much, or by looking down the road to far, we become overwhelmed. We stress out. We freeze up. We make the problem worse.
If you’re feeling like your treading water or juggling too many assignments, the problem is most likely that you’re trying to do too much; rather than not enough. Slow yourself down. Ask yourself, “What ONE thing will I do RIGHT NOW that I will complete?” Then, complete it BEFORE you move on to anything else.
Then, enjoy the sense of success that comes with accomplishment.
That too will keep you moving forward.
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