Our minds listen “faster” than people can speak. Therefore, especially when we’re busy, we sometimes don’t take the time so slow down and really listen to what others are telling us. We respond to what we think they’re saying, not necessarily what they are really saying.
It’s almost always frustrating when we compare where we are to where we want to go. It’s better to compare where you are to where you started. That way, you’ll see the progress.
As I watched the drama, it dawned on me that this process does not end when we move away from our parents. It is a sequence that presents itself continually: Frustration. Lesson. Acceptance. Progress. Repeat cycle as necessary until learned.
While procrastinating, I found this fun video about procrastination.
This video is inspirational in the fact that people actually put together this incredible miniature world. The playfulness of the creators makes it even more fun.
Sometimes, we hang on to “bad feelings” because we think we are punishing someone for what he or she did. The reality is that they are unaware of it and it doesn’t affect them in the slightest. Actually, it holds us back and hurts us.
Real world example: whether you want to cook-in, play tennis, exercise, read, write, walk, run, dance, speak, consult, sell or save more, put a number on it. How many times a MONTH will you make it happen?
“Well, I always make resolutions and then I give up. So, I did some research and I found out that experts say if you’re really serious, you have to write them down. So I got organized. I got all these ‘to-do’ lists, each broken down by priority, category, and deadline. And because we’re more likely to change when we focus on the rewards instead of the work, I’ve listed them in this column, ranking them from one to ten. And there’s more…”
It’s easy to say resolutions don’t work and leave it at that, but the simple truth is that I got distracted by fantasies of my “New Me!” results and didn’t consider the effort and expense required by the massive changes I was taking on. When setting goals, it’s best to be realistic.
If you’re having trouble getting on the same page with someone else, it’s important to remember that the only person you control is yourself. Obviously, what you’re doing now is not getting you what you want (unless it’s a disagreement). You might as well try something else.
Should we desire a different outcome, we must alter our pattern. That triggers a feeling of being out of place. Since we are creatures of comfort and avoid anxiety when possible, this awkward awareness drives the need for consolation. End result? We revert to our habit and remain trapped. Ironically, lowering the uneasiness to zero means we are not making any adjustments; hence the same result.
The problems with New Year’s resolutions are that most people aren’t really committed to them but feel they “should” make them because everyone else is; or they are committed to them but they make them too large and unwieldy.
Richard Bandler is one of the two co-creators of the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) talks about new years resolutions
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